I Love Her But She Wants To Be Friends, How Can I Stop Loving Her??

[niceguy07]

it all started when i became good friends with this girl about a year ago. we started spending a lot of time together then i began to fall for her.

i kept it a secret for a while because i wasnt sure if she felt the same.

 

then about 2 months ago i told her, she was very shocked.

I didnt see her for a week then we met for a drink. She told me that she just wanted to be friends and that she enjoyed being single.I accepted this and agreed to carry on being friends.

 

Another week later (co-incidently valentines day!) she said that she had been having feelings for me and that she wouldnt want to be with anyone else.

So we kissed and decided to take it slow. everything seemed good for a couple of weeks and my feelings became really strong but then i started to feel that i was making all the effort. she never once reached over to kiss me. Then there seemed to be lots of awkwardness between us and we even tried to have sex but it was rushed and very nervous on my behalf.

 

we ended up talking about it and she agreed that it was awkward but she couldnt explain what was holding her back.

we ended up splitting up but agreein to stay friends.

 

now my head is in a complete mess! im deeply in love with her and cant accept being friends, i get jealous when she talks to boys, and i am worried that she will find a boyfriend.

she really wants to be friends but it just makes me want to be with her even more.

 

I need to accept that she just wants to be friends but is it possible for me to fall out of love??

 

has anyone been in this situation before?

[2ndIINone]

this is a simple case of "wanting what you can't have."

 

everything seemed good for a couple of weeks and my feelings became really strong but then i started to feel that i was making all the effort.

 

this is where ya blew it.... you have to control your emotions when dealing with someone unstable.... or else you'll come across as "too much" for her to handle. And SHE is definately unstable with her emotions and feelings. Welcome to her comfortzone. She'll only want you around when she needs to feel cared about.

 

Go find yourself a girlfriend and see how quickly she turns around.

[niceguy07]

thanks a lot, i needed to hear that, great advice my friends cheers!