SLEEPLESS IN NJ Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Hi Everyone, I need a little advise and have no one to turn too... here is the deal.... Im 26 and he's going to be 30 in July. We have a wonderful relationship overall (little fights here and there who doesnt), and we are celebrating our 1 year anniversary on saturday, we both know that we love each other. I know it hasnt been easy for him (his mother is sick...in and out of the hospital) I was I diagnosed with cervical cancer and had to have surgery (he was there for me every step of the way) and now I'm tring and be there for him however I think he feels that I'm suffocating him... Aaaaanyway, in the past month, I feel like he has been pulling away from me. I try and get him to talk to me and find out what is bothering him but he wont tell me. Friday night we went out with his friends and they got into an altercation (He is a calm guy, not a tough guy he was sticking up for his friend) it ended up with him knocking some guy out. We all started to leave before the cops and when walking to the door he ran into another one of his friends that he hasnt seen in a couple years and when I turned around...I lost them....I waited and looked around but I didnt see him...so I texted him with "where are you" like 2 mins later he wrote back outside...I then left and started to walk to the car and no one was there...so I called and he flipped out on me for not following him out and I got pissed off and flipped out as well....he hung up on me....so I got into my car and left (yes I was wasted and should not have been driving (he knew that)) I had no idea where I was and of course there had to be a detour to make matters worse. Aaaaanyway to make a long story short I ended up calling one of my friends and they helped me find my way. I called him a couple times during that time and we would just yell and hangup...One of his friends started to drive him to my house and they stopped at taco bell and thats when he told me to meet him there...so I did..... We talked and we both vented and had makeup sex. Everything was great we spent the whole day together on Saturday. Easter unfortunately we went our seperate ways with our families. I ended up talking to him later that night around 10ish however when he called I was on the other line with my friend John, but I picked up anyway and put him on hold why I got off the phone with John. When I came back to his line I asked me who it was......and I paused and Lied and told him it was my friends ex b/f....(NO IDEA WHY I DID THIS, HE KNOWS JOHN AND I HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR HIM) he reads me very well and knew I was telling a little whitelie and flipped out.... He told me he wanted to kool off and he will talk to me in the morning....I agreed....but ever since then things havent been the same....Monday he wouldnt answer my calls, emails, he wont text me back nothing....Yesterday we talked (40 mins) and I thought that I was making some progress I called him around 10:30 and left a voicemail and no answer, no text no nothing....(We always say goodnight to each other before going to bed). Now today I sent him a text... I wrote: "will you talk to me, and tell me whats going on babe? I want to help" he wrote back: "Im in a bad place mentally right now. I want time alone" I wrote back: "you where there for me let me try and help babe! Dont push me away" He wrote: " Iwant to be alone. That will help me right now. Can you do that for me?" I wrote: " if that is what you want! What do I do in the mean time? Do I move on, or wait?" He wrote: "its your life do what you want" I wrote: "Do I have a b/f?" He wrote: " I need time. No more texts." What do I do??? Someone PLEASE help me....do I treat this like a break up and move on...or do I wait and pray he comes around? I have been doing nothing but crying I havent been to work all week...and I dont know what to do..... SOMEONE ANYONE PLEASE HELP!!!
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