Izzar Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 There's a couple here at work whom I think are playing around. Both are married. The mm tried to get with me when I first started this job 4 years ago. I turned him down. He was married then & since divorced & remarried. He makes it a known fact that he's not happy in his marriage. Same as with his 1st wife:rolleyes: . Anyway, do I say something to one of them or mind my own business?? Thanks guys/girls!!
yousaveme Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 I would. Might save someone alot of pain and headaches.
whichwayisup Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Stay out of it, just go about your work and ignore him.
2sunny Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 I would say nothing... it's none of your business and not your place to speak up.
Author Izzar Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 I would. Might save someone alot of pain and headaches. I think it's more like HAHA I KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING!!!! Rather than STOP, IT'S NOT RIGHT. Since I'm a co-worker & not a friend to either of them. Although the girls are getting together for lunch this friday. Hmmmm Good convo huh.
whichwayisup Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Since I'm a co-worker & not a friend to either of them. And if they find out you refused the MM a long time ago and he finds out, it will look like sour grapes....He'll lie about it and turn it against you. I know you're trying to help, but seeing as you're not friends with either of them, it could backfire and make YOU look like the jealous bad guy. Stupid I know, but isn't office politics in general anyway?? Don't get sucked in the crap that goes on at work.
Author Izzar Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 And if they find out you refused the MM a long time ago and he finds out, it will look like sour grapes....He'll lie about it and turn it against you. I know you're trying to help, but seeing as you're not friends with either of them, it could backfire and make YOU look like the jealous bad guy. Stupid I know, but isn't office politics in general anyway?? Don't get sucked in the crap that goes on at work. WWIU, That just dawned on me. I'll just keep my mouth shut. I'd just be viewed as one of those catty, rumor-starting bitches anyway. Thanks!!
yousaveme Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 This is true. Since your not friends with her then. It would look bad. Just let them go at it. And they will learn of their own. Sit back and watch it play out. Maybe make the boring days go by faster with the drama And if they find out you refused the MM a long time ago and he finds out, it will look like sour grapes....He'll lie about it and turn it against you. I know you're trying to help, but seeing as you're not friends with either of them, it could backfire and make YOU look like the jealous bad guy. Stupid I know, but isn't office politics in general anyway?? Don't get sucked in the crap that goes on at work.
Author Izzar Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 :lmao: I wonder if anyone else here is watching this soap opera? :lmao:
NoIDidn't Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 I agree with WWIU (as you do too, LOL). Since you did turn him down, it will look like you are just vying for another chance, for whatever reason. And it WILL make you look bad. If that wasn't the case, I'd say GO FOR IT. I have a friend that has a very attractive, yet philandering H. I know how much he cheats on her. I know about the other TWO children outside of their M that she doesn't know about. But the fact that I AM attracted to her H (while I wouldn't act on it as I don't do dogs), I can't ever say anything to her or him. It would come off as jealousy. And he is nothing to have beyond eye candy.
Author Izzar Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 Speaking of looks : this guy here looks like a pelican. And by the way, he just called here from the road & asked for her extension. Too funny. Let's see how long they stay on the phone together. Am I bad or what? Shouldn't the right thing be done & tell them both to stop it. It's just not right. I feel bad for the unknowing wife & husband in this.
Guest Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Hello, The reason he is going around saying he is unhappy in his marriage is because he is looking for an affair. Very simple, its a Bait and switch, or better yet a hook. There are women who respond to that, wanting to save this poor man. They are the ones that bite on that remark. Its a trait that serial cheaters, or sex addicts use, read the book "The Casanova Complex, from Peter Trachenburg. Very interesting book, you will spot a serial cheater in a second, and this is just one of many tactics, RUN RUN Away!!!!!
Author Izzar Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 Hello, The reason he is going around saying he is unhappy in his marriage is because he is looking for an affair. Very simple, its a Bait and switch, or better yet a hook. There are women who respond to that, wanting to save this poor man. They are the ones that bite on that remark. Its a trait that serial cheaters, or sex addicts use, read the book "The Casanova Complex, from Peter Trachenburg. Very interesting book, you will spot a serial cheater in a second, and this is just one of many tactics, RUN RUN Away!!!!! I should buy the book, read it & then leave it on his desk. He makes it very well known that he doesn't want to be married to his current wife. His first marriage was enolled (sic) What is he doing? Maybe he is a sex addict &/or a serial cheater. All this makes me wanna ask him.
Author Izzar Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 And her (the ow)? What is she thinking? He goes to the drug store next door everyday & comes back with a card. Maybe I'm just too newsy?
2sunny Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 i think it's not "newsy" it's NOSY! cut it out - you are only going to get yourself into trouble by paying so much attention to this that you want to take action...
Author Izzar Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 Ok. I'm done. I'll just email them the LS website & be done.
Tomcat33 Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Izzar - WHY IN THE WORLD would you even care about those two and to take out a whole thread about this topic!?!?!? If you are yearning to do a "good deed" why don't you volunteer at a foodbank, that's where your good will is much appreciated, not meddling into other people's business?!?
Author Izzar Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 Izzar - WHY IN THE WORLD would you even care about those two and to take out a whole thread about this topic!?!?!? If you are yearning to do a "good deed" why don't you volunteer at a foodbank, that's where your good will is much appreciated, not meddling into other people's business?!? Speaking of meddling... Anyway, If I were to say something to this couple, maybe it would prevent another affair. Good deed would be done. Just like on here. Right? Again, I am now done on this issue. Sorry to take up a thread.
Tomcat33 Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Speaking of meddling... ok apparently you are not familiar with the term, meddling is sticking your nose in other people's business UNWELCOMED, you on the other hand took out a thread ASKING for opinions, you WELCOMED the comments. Anyway, If I were to say something to this couple, maybe it would prevent another affair. Good deed would be done. Just like on here. Right? Do you HONESTLY believe you have that kind of power? that by telling on your co-workers' affair they will stop? when not even marriage vows, or years of history together with another human being, having children, the possibility of losing eveyrthing, and personal demons, can stop an affair. you think you will? LOL please.... telling on them will only make you look foolish, you cannot prevent an affair short of killing one of them. and you def don't want to go down that route LOL Besides if you were smart enough to notice I'm sure half the office already knows too. I'd mind my own business if I were you, unless of course you have some "other" vested interest in exposing them....
Dadaal Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Well alrighty then:D It sounds you're jealous of his new "on the side friend" !! Why would you want to expose them and to whom would you share this secret with?
Author Izzar Posted April 12, 2007 Author Posted April 12, 2007 It sounds you're jealous of his new "on the side friend" !! Why would you want to expose them and to whom would you share this secret with? I'm in no way jealous of pelican's gf. I wouldn't tell other people. I was wondering if I should say something to the girl involved. We work together & I was going to ask her what the deal was between her & pelican. That's all.
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