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I have been with my bf awhile, over 2 years and there was a point that I wanted to marry him but he seemed hesitant. He would occasionally blurt out marriage talk but nothing more.

 

Something inside of me seemed to have snapped and now I am take it or leave it about marriage and as soon as my attitude has changed about it, he is the one gung ho about getting married.

 

What is up with that?

 

Sometimes I don't want to spend the night and just make an excuse to leave and then he seems determined to get me to stay.

 

Why is it that I am casual about it, HE is the one wanting to?

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Because the pressure you were putting on him is suddenly off and now he sees it's what he wants too? I don't know? I have no idea actually. :D

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Thanks for the reply.

 

Yeah I have no idea either. I don't think I said much to him about marriage. Asked if he was interested in it a couple times but that is all.

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Well then how do you know he's interested in getting married all of the sudden? Is he bringing it up or something?

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Talk is talk, he needs to produce the ring. When he brings up marriage, you need to say "Ok. So when? Let's go pick out a ring now and set a date." Talk is talk, he needs to show you the money. You really DO need to not let his statements of marriage just slide, you need to hold him to those statements and see that he acts on them. If it turns out he's bluffing and he hedges, then it's time to move on. After two years, it is time to get the wedding or move on to a guy who will give you that.

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