CityGirl64 Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 My original thread (long) is in the dating section (I didnt know where to put it). Basically this is a guy I know since birth I am 12 years older than him, he is my cousin's cousin (from the other side, so we're not related by blood). We had been given each other "eyes" but he was married, last year he gets divorced and I was the one he would call when he was down and all that. We got pretty close, and then got flirty. We live in different states. I recently returned from a trip of staying with him. I went with no expectation even though I like the guy. I attempted to kiss him and he rejected my approach, later exaplaining he didn't want family issues. I understand and respect his decision. While i was staying at his place he really was a gem, and so was his cousin (if it wasn't for her I would've frozen my booty off, she opened her closet to me no questions asked). So this week (I returned last week) I was thinking of sending them a thank you gift and know exactly what I want to send. Problem though, when I called him yesterday for his zip code he was a bit rude (we spoke last week and things were normal) and short. He asked me what I wanted it for and I had no choice but to tell him it was to send a thank you gift, he told me not to send him anything, I told him it was for all of them for opening their homes to me, not only him. He stayed quiet. I tried to get off the phone he told me to hold on (he was busy with a client) to only tell me he would call me back in 2 seconds and never did. I thought he was busy no biggie. But he was never rude with me like that before. Botton line here: I know nothing will come of us, and I was ok with that until his tone yesterday, and it left me thinking if I should send a gift at all. Should I go with my initial thought to send the small thank you gift? I appreciate any responses - thanks.
Guest Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 He's let you know he doesn't want a gift so no I wouldn't send one . One last thing, he needs time to grieve his marriage. No matter how much you think you are prepared to go through a divorce until it actually happens you don't know what its like. If you want any chance with this guy in the future back off for now.
amaysngrace Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 I wouldn't send him a gift. He was rude to you. You know like they say 'that was then, this is now'? Well he was nice then but he's rude now. So forget the gift to the rude guy.
Author CityGirl64 Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 I hear ya! But his cousin shouldn't be punished for his rude behavior. She lent me her coats and sweaters, took me shopping - she was awesome! i'm leaning towards just sending her something, I will decide by the end of the week. I wish had more replies though.
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