insanelyjelous Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Hi guys I know the myspace thing has been done to death but I have a question for all you guys out there. My fiance of 3 and a half years, three months ago decided he was gonna get a myspace account after being egged on by a girl at work, all fine until he started to become obssessed with it. He now checks it morning noon and night even before he gets into bed! I haven't said anything to him even though he has more than 200 female friends and I have managed to contain myself until today. I too have a myspace page although my friends list is small and I do not feel the need to check it every hour of the day, well today I went onto his page as I do most times I log on and on his page were some relativley harmless comments about love of gaming from a girl who he has just met, so I thought lets see what he's said to her and I click on her and there are three comments to her all today, one saying that he should ask her to marry him because she knows who a character from a game is! and another saying that he thinks he's in love! WTF!! Now I know he likes to flirt but is it just me that thinks that this is beyond ridiculous, by the way I am nine months pregnant and about to have his baby anytime now although now I'm wondering why! He never tells me he loves me unless I say it to him so It feels like the ultimate betrayal that he could write that "he thinks he's in love" on somewhere so public even if it was harmless flirting. So guys what would you do would you say anything? I want to! I want to send him a message telling him to get lost that if he can say it to another woman but not to me then we have serious issues.. but what would you do? advice appreciated......................
lostWITHOUThim Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Ok...so my thought on the whole "Myspace" thing is... it is harmless to a point, like for example both me and my bf both have myspace accounts he use to check his like 3times a day and now that we live together he hardly checks it... BUT when Im not in the room I catch him on it, and when I walk in the room he closes the window...so makes me kinda uneasy, as for me..I check mine everyday whether hes next to me or not, because I have nothing to hide. My profile is also private while his is public... But, thats what I think about it..hope it helps
tanbark813 Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 I would be pissed if I were in your shoes. Myspace causing problems in relationships is not an uncommon thing but people are too quick to point the blame at the site itself. Myspace doesn't define or shape who people are nor does it make a faithful person a cheater. All it does is further reveal a person's character. So asking if Myspace is harmful or not is a pointless question. It's like asking if cell phones or email are harmful or not. It all depends on what you use it for.
melodymatters Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Sorry honey, that is very NOT COOL of your fiance. I am not a jealous chick, have no probs with my space pages, BF's going to strip clubs with buddies etc. BUT, BIIIIIIIGGGGG BUT, Making comments like that anywhere, in person, on a public forum, is very disrespectful. If I were you, I would place a comment on HIS page, along the lines of "gee hon, I want to MARRY YOU, seeing as we're ENGAGED and about to have a CHILD together, but I am not familiar with " insert name of character" and it seems your in love with somene else, so maybe I'll have to move on...JACKASS" yeah it's childish, but I wouldn't be able to resist:cool:
whichwayisup Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Tell him it's time you both close your MYspace accounts and keep friends who are "real live" friends, like in your daily life and friends with you both. Myspace is for teens, or for musicians, not for people who are expecting their first child. Talk to him and tell him that how he is acting and what he is saying is COMPLETELY inappropriate and it has hurt your feelings. Let him know that is not right that he has so many female friends, casual or not. It's wrong of him to be saying those things to ANYONE but you. If he gives you a hard time, then you two need to go to couples therapy and sort it out. Good luck and I hope he listens to ya!
Author insanelyjelous Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 Thanks for the replies I just needed to hear that I wasn't overreacting, well I sent him a very long and heartfelt myspace message last night basically telling him my displeasure at seeing such things and saying that he needed to take a good hard look at our relationship before the baby gets here and if thats how he wanted to continue then I didn't want to be part of it anymore. I know he read it last night but he hasn't said anything to me as yet... I just wish he would apologise (which he never does) and acknowledge that he has hurt my feelings. God I must be a fool to keep putting myself through this stuff, I know that I've had jelousy issues in the past but I've made the effort to stop going through his things and give him his space, he has issues with talking (specifically to me as he can communicate with everyone else other women included just fine) but he has made no attempt to make that better, I just don't know why I bother sometimes, oh yeah because I love him!
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