Guest Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 This might be in the wrong cat. My name is Mike I am a Bussiness owner of 24 years and 47 Her name is M. 43 and very beautiful inside and out. I have been in a two month breakup with my GF of four years. I found this site by accident but this site gave me alot of great advice thru other peoples threads. I could see myself in many situations just like the ones expressed here. Ashort syp. On superbowl night we had a major fight after I showed my ass while drinking. Over the next few days neither her nor I made an attempt to contact each other. [ a major mistake on my part] For good or for worse we both have the same friends and party at the same places. So we were constantly seeing each other. After a couple of weeks of not talking I tried to call her. NOT good. Told to, well lets just say i was told to do several things, none good. Over the next two weeks I tried every stupid thing I have read here that you should not do. Drunk calling, E-mailing, flowers etc.... Finally went NC. Give her time to cool off. Things were getting better then comes the BIG lie. Someone told her I was sleeping with a very attractive friend of ours. Never happened and never would. For some reason I was still feeling like I should be loyal to her. Things went to **** quicker than I could believe. She made a point of meeting someone who comes into the Sportsbar we both go to. First time they left before I knew what to say. Second time I approached her and asked her to go somewhere else. A week later she meets him there and when again I asked her to go somewhere else. This guy stands up like he is thinking he is going to take my girl and make me his punk. He didn't think that for long. Cops come and luckily my friends stand up for me and all tell the same story. This guy could not believe it. So they left. Over the next three weeks I see her some but no communication. So last wednesday night I am talking to some friends of mine on the patio when she comes in with two of her friends and sits about ten feet away. As the hour goes by we have become a group of about eight, then six, four and then just the two of us and we are talking like we have not in years did not even know our friends had all left and we were the only two on the patio. She told me all she ever wanted to do is marry me and grow old and I told her how not asking was the dumbest thing I have ever done. When she told me about the LIE, I could not believe it. But when she explained how it all looked to her I could see her side because I was spending alot of time talking with the other lady. TALKING only. She admitted that the other guy was there to piss me off and it worked. I read on here one time about how HOPE is the most incidious thing in Pandoras box. I can see both sides of that now. 1. In my op. hope can keep someone trying and wishing and praying to get someone back that is not coming. 2. Also in my op. hope can also give you the strenght to continue to believe that maybe, just maybe it might work out. I think that in my case it was a matter of me being an ass that led to something that neither one of us wanted. She was beleving the LIE and I thought she was "moving on". they say that true love is very rare thing in this world. But to find someone that you actually love being with, someone that you would die for and she would for me also. Well that is very rare also. On saturday I asked her to marry me and she said yes!!!! So now we are shopping for a ring and planning our future. Put both our hoses on the market and looking to by one together. Once again I want to think everyone here for the topics, advice and most of all just giving someone with a grieving heart a place to go where other people are going thru the same thing.
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