whichwayisup Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 I do compromsie---ME!! but where are his sacrifices? thats all i'm saying..its a 2 way street.... You can compromise all you want, he can only offer you what is he offering you now. His kids come first, and with that comes his ex-wife whom he has chosen to be intouch with at times. HE has chosen to do things this way so he can BE A GOOD FATHER. Not to screw you up and make you feel bad. Either accept him and what he can bring into your life, be happy, or END IT and walk away. He isn't willing to change for you, so don't put that expectation on him.
Art_Critic Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 It isn't like he is still seeing the ex on the side or he still has feelings for her.. She is part of his past not present and you are part of his present and his future.. She has no future with him.. Since that is the case and him buying the gifts is being done for the kids and poses no threat to your relationship then you need to let it go.. and it you can't then I would suggest seeing a therapist to learn how to deal with these triggers that show up because of your past.
Author candy Posted May 9, 2007 Author Posted May 9, 2007 how do you say "because of my past?" what does my past have toi do with his behavior now? my friends who are divorced, they want little to do with their ex husbands, and thats personally the way i think it shoudl be, or stay married!!
Art_Critic Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 how do you say "because of my past?" what does my [/Quote]Your past or something from your past is what is causing the triggers in you to feel threatened for no reason... The man wants to be part of his kids lives .. however that is.. he choses to buy gifts for them to give to their mother.. You have a problem with it when most people would not..and from what I have read you are feeling threatened or insecure that seems to not have anything to do with your relationship.
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