rt2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 I have been involved with my girlfriend for six years and I think that we may have reached the point of no return? My story goes like this. I met my sweet heart back on April 6th 2001, I feel in love with her when I first met her and we been together every since. For the first two years it seen to me that I was living in paradise. Please believe me when I say, I die and went to heaven. I was in love and still I'm. There was nothing that would not do for her. Even on our early day of our relationship we could overcome any problems we would find ways to make each other happy. Now here is were all started to fall apart. On about 2004 we have developed a cycle of brake ups and make ups. Every time we had a problem we would break up and of course we would make up, we would be Ok for a while and then something would happen and sure enough we would do it again and again. A non healthy relationship was growing. All that we have done was to sweep our problems under the rug and never really dealt with the issue at hand. Now, March seventh two thousand and seven. I leave for out of town on the way to the airport we had a fight. We said stuff that we shouldn't have said, she called me back to say that she wanted me to have a safe flight and I reply by saying thank you for the call. I get to my destination and called her to let her know that I have arrived safely, no answer, so I left a message at work, latter on the day I called back again and no answer. Two days go by and I finally on Friday I get a call from her. We spoke for about ten minutes and I said that I would call back, but I did not until I got back home on monday. When I got back I called and she let me know that she was not very happy with me, so I answer her with Ok fine, by now a week has going by and I thought that I should call to see what's is going on between us. As you can imagine the news that I was giving was that we are no longer together. I was devastated by the news. so i get into the saving the relationship mode once again. So we go true a series of arguments and more fights, she assures me that she will never be with me again, that she loathes me, and so on and so fort I had no choice but to wait for the situation to settle down. I find out from her that she is already seen other people and that she likes what she is doing. She has told me about this other man that is relentlessly perusing her, where they been what they done. By now she is beginning to accept some kind of communication with me. But she still try to avoid me at all cost except when I intersect her for a moment. Obviously I keep after her so that she will not forget that I'M still here and I want to resolve our differences. Not to bore you with my story . Now we have gotten to the point were she has asked me for time to think about what she wants. I assured her that we can resolve our problems as long as we both want to. Whether or not she comes back I have made the decision to change for my own emotional health. I have conveyed this to her but her answer is that she as heard this before and she still time. She said that she has a good idea as to what to expect from us because she has lived with for four years with this volatile relationship. I would like to find the solution to our problem I do not want to push her away but I find my self wanting her more and more each and every day and I feel that if i have a chance to get our relationship on the right track I might be loosing ground. I need to figure out how to save my relationship if there is anything left to save or how do I deal with the fact that she is gone for good. Please some ONE give me advice.
cecil brown Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 You sound just like me. I'm in a similar situation and my advice would be to give her space. You can't force the contact. I made that mistake thinking I was going to save the relationship and it ultimately pushed my ex over the edge and out of my life for good. I wish I wouldn't have crowded her when she asked for space.
candy Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 listen, you have to let it go for now! it seems like shes moving on, seeing other guys, and enjoying rubbing your nose in it. don't push her...if she wants to come back she will.mayeb she just needs a little break, after 6 years tryt to figure out what she wants. sort of a"mid life crisis" for dating! if you push her you may lose her forever, which doesn't sound to me like its the worst thing. she's sorta insensiitve..but at least she's beng hoenst with you, about her feleings and what she' s doing, she isn't goin behind your back. try to see it that way, and try to see other people your self. who knows, that might make her realize you too are playing the field and it coudl bring her back. good luck!!
GUEST Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 You sound just like me. I'm in a similar situation and my advice would be to give her space. You can't force the contact. I made that mistake thinking I was going to save the relationship and it ultimately pushed my ex over the edge and out of my life for good. I wish I wouldn't have crowded her when she asked for space. We have agreed to talk on the 23rd of this month - my thoughts are that I will ask for more time and not talk about us but instead talk about how she is been doing. It's this the right thing to do and if so how should i react to her in the event that she tell me that it is over for good or that she may still need additional time?
Guest Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 listen, you have to let it go for now! it seems like shes moving on, seeing other guys, and enjoying rubbing your nose in it. don't push her...if she wants to come back she will.mayeb she just needs a little break, after 6 years tryt to figure out what she wants. sort of a"mid life crisis" for dating! if you push her you may lose her forever, which doesn't sound to me like its the worst thing. she's sorta insensiitve..but at least she's beng hoenst with you, about her feleings and what she' s doing, she isn't goin behind your back. try to see it that way, and try to see other people your self. who knows, that might make her realize you too are playing the field and it coudl bring her back. good luck!! We have agreed to talk on the 23rd of this month - my thoughts are that I will ask for more time and not talk about us but instead talk about how she is doing. It's this the right thing to do and if so how should i react to her in the event that she tell me that it is over for good or that she may still need additional time?
michelangelo Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 And has told you she doesn't like you anymore, plus she is already seeing other men. Sounds like she has broken up with you. let her go and move on. She has already.
Guest Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 And has told you she doesn't like you anymore, plus she is already seeing other men. Sounds like she has broken up with you. let her go and move on. She has already. She ahsked for a month of nc, tell me why she would want to do that,for now we have spoken and she says that she need it. why????
Author rt2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Author Posted April 11, 2007 And has told you she doesn't like you anymore, plus she is already seeing other men. Sounds like she has broken up with you. let her go and move on. She has already. she never said that she does not like me
michelangelo Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 You don't think she doesn't like you? And I mean as a boyfriend. This is a quote from your original posting. Her telling you she loathes you pretty much formed my opinion that she doesn't like you. So we go true a series of arguments and more fights, she assures me that she will never be with me again, that she loathes me, and so on and so fort
candy Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 she sounds very ocnfused and inconsistent--saying no contact for a month then contacting you. pleaseeee give her the space to figure things out and if you talk and she says its over then ITS OVER. move on! you sound very caring, don' t waste that on somene who won't reciprocate....
2ndIINone Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Now What , She Wants Time To Think so give her what she asked for. It'll be hard, but it's best for YOU.
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