Spency Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Sorry for the long story. On Friday, my Girlfriends parents were coming down for Easter. I had some extra work on, so could not be in the house, and she was off to her friends for the day. I got home late, and the house was a mess, so I brought this up and WW3 broke out. Next thing I know she had cancelled her parents coming down. Then on the Saturday, she said she needed space, was depressed about everything so was going to stay in a local hotel. She came home Sunday, viably and clearly distraught and depressed but we talked it through and thought we could work things out. Then on Monday, half way through the day, she says she needs to go to her friends as she needs more space, but she would be back that day. She then texts me to tell me she's not coming home but would be home today. She barely wanted to speak to me yesterday. She rung me just now to say she's coming to see me, she needs some more days, but she does want to be with me. I know I am a complete bastard to live with and I dont treat her right. For 2 1/2 years, she has not really had any friends as she finds it difficult to make friends, so has been pretty much dependant on me. She made this new friend at her new job, and I was genuinely pleased for her, but now it seems it is an escape route. She said that after all of these years, she finally realised she needs some space at times, which I get due to going away with work and other mates etc anyway. It has made be think how I treated her, exactly like she is doing now. When I go away, I find it hard to make an effort to speak to her, and I have been snappy and miserable for a year due to work, which she has taken the main brunt of. She couldn't tell me if she wanted to be with me any more until this morning on the phone. She said she does but just needs a few more days away. It is basically just a replica of how I have treated her, but she seems to have changed. She seems unemotional towards me and has admitted maybe it is a kind of revenge thing. For 3 days I haven't eaten of slept, I just don't care. It has never been a perfect relationship, but I really needed this kick up the arse and want to fight. But she keeps promising she will be home, then it goes into an extra night etc. I know its not cheating, so have ruled that out and she does seem depressed. I don't know whether to keep trying, let her have the space she needs, or assume that it is over and she is just playing games. She is a lovely person, and if I have lost her its my own fault, but this is just destroying me, really destroying me. I have just been to see her. She says she just needs a couple of days. She says she doesn't want to break up, but she does not see it changing in terms of the relationship getting better. Maybe I have just been such a idiot I deserve this. I knew things were bad, but not this bad. She says she will text me, but if we text or talk too much, it means she doesn't have time to think. About 5 hours after seeing her today, she did text "I hope you are ok. Love you x". All I can do is prepare myself for the worst, a lifetime a lone and a ****ed up relationship that I messed up. Any ideas where this is probably heading?
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