westerner Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Okay, I met a girl over a year ago at work. We hit it off right away, but she had a boyfriend. Her time at my work was temporary, and on her last day, we made our feelings for each other known. At the time, she said if things between me and him don't work out, I'll give you a call. As badly as I wanted to be with her, I let it go. We talked now and then and she knew I still liked her. Recently, she contacted me about coming back to my work, as we work for the same company. That decision is totally mine, as the manager. For personal reasons (like I don't want to see her with her boyfriend) I don't want to allow it. But during the talk, she again complained of this guy's jealousy and over-protectiveness. Now, they've been together for a year and a half, so she obviously feels something for him. But she again said "if things between he and I don't work out, you'll be the first I call". After over a year, that meant something to me. I gave her my phone number and told her to call me anytime. I also said I would respect the fact that she was with him, as much as I could. The other day, I went into her place of business, and she was flirting big time, touching me whenever she could, things like that. And if anyone is wondering, I am 27 and she is 21. Her flirting made me feel good, but I didn't do anything back, even though she knows I like her. I am trying to do the whole "live my life" thing without her while she's with this guy. But I am absolutely crazy about her. Everyone that knows us knows I would be better for her, for a variety of reasons I won't go into. What I want to know is, is she just playing games and I truly have no chance to ever be with this girl? Or is there something I can do, without stepping over the boundaries? Also, if I walk away from this, how can I convince myself that it is the right thing to do, knowing it will break my heart? Any advice will be gladly read and accepted.
Road Rage Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 It is my impression that you are the type of guy that is pretty good with women. But, the inevitable happens and you meet one that is not available and is a challange. And that becomes your obsession. Man is meant to suffer, if he has no suffering, he will invent some. Sorry don`t know who said that but I second it:confused:
Green Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 your going to have to step over some boundries and take a chance...
Author westerner Posted April 10, 2007 Author Posted April 10, 2007 your going to have to step over some boundries and take a chance... Any suggestions?
Green Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 yeah next time shes all touching you and flirting, flirt back touch back. Invite her out for drinks then invite her back to your place just to hang out or what ever and then when she gets back to your place start making out with her and take things as far as they go
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