Want to write her a letter.........

[goodguy123]

I'm so sad and depressed lately and I just want to write my ex a letter and tell her how I feel and stuff. We've been broken up for 7 months, but she still calls me once in a while.

 

But I saw a friend of a friend today who met her and asked me if it was my ex, and then was saying how hot she was and asking me how I let her slip away, and it made me so upset and I've just been thinking to myself all day about how the hell did I let her slip away. She really is a very beautiful girl and I miss her so much. Not only was she beautiful, but she was everything else that I wanted in a girl. I don't see how any other girl will ever compare to her in my eyes.

 

I still love her and I think about her constantly, and I would do anything to have her back in my life. I also haven't met anyone else yet which makes it even worse for me because it just makes me dwell on her more.

 

But anyway, I just want to write her a letter and tell her how sad I am, and how much I really do care about her (which she already knows). I think the main reason I want to write her is that I don't have anyone to talk to about how sad I am. I know she still cares about me, although she says she doesn't want to be with me anymore, and doesn't know if she ever will....... But she is the only person in my life I have ever been comfortable talking with about my feelings, I could never open up to any of my other ex's like I could to her, and that's another reason I miss her so much. My friends don't know how sad I am, and I can't tell them, and they are all sick of hearing about her, so I feel like I can't even mention her name around them anymore.

 

I know nothing good will happen from me writing her a email, but I miss her sooooo bad, and not a day goes by that I don't cry and wish that she was still around for me to talk to. Getting the stuff off my chest will probably make me feel better, but I'm sure she's already heard most of it at some point. Although I haven't written her a letter in a few months. I even wouldn't mind just texting her and saying "i miss you", although I don't know if it's gonna make me look pathetic, or if she will just understand how much she meant to me.

 

I miss her so bad. I really can't take feeling like this anymore. How will I ever get over her??? And should I write her??

[whichwayisup]

although she says she doesn't want to be with me anymore, and doesn't know if she ever will......

 

Then don't write the letter...Unless you're doing it soley for yourself so you will feel better. Don't expect ANYTHING in return, that way if she doesn't comment or talk to you about the letter, you won't be heartbroken.

 

What are the exact reasons for writing her? I mean, if it is get her back, your words won't change that...7 months and no signs of getting back together, I doubt very much one letter will change her mind. Sorry.......I just see you doing this, in hopes that it will relieve your pain, and it probably won't. There are strings attached to that letter, whether or not you're aware of that or not.

 

You need to go into NC (no contact) mode - For so many reasons...Most of all, so you can heal and get over her. Seeing and talking to her is making it worse for you. Hearing about her through other people is a mistake too, it just continually is opening up pain and heartache for you.

 

For starters, keep busier. Allow abit of time each day to cry over her, then pick yourself UP and get out of your house, see friends, have some fun. The more energy you spend doing other things, the less you'll think of her. Get out of the habit of fantasizing, or remembering her as your girlfriend. She isn't a daily part of your life anymore, so you thinking of her is preventing you from letting go...........

[goodguy123]

I know the letter won't get her back. I have said and done everything I could possibly do to get her back. But I guess my main reason for writing her is that I just don't have anyone else in my life that I feel like I can share my feelings with. And I don't know, I just miss her so much. Last time we talked she even asked me why I never call her, even though she broke up with me. I didn't really understand why I should be the one calling, but anyway..........

 

I would love to go nc, but it is almost impossible with the situation I'm in. She still calls me once in a while, I even run into her on occasion. And I am constantly hearing about her from mutual friends and other people.

 

And I know I wouldn't think about her as much if I could meet someone, but I haven't met anyone yet..

[whichwayisup]

It is very unfair of her to expect a friendship of you right now. She is getting what she wants, you in her life on her terms....And you, don't really 'have' her. Do you really want a friendship with your ex while you're still inlove with her? You think it's painful now, imagine when she starts dating again and TELLS you about the guy!

 

People cannot be friends after they break up. Time heals all wounds and you're nowhere close right now...

 

She isn't in your daily life and telling her about your feelings really isn't a good idea. You need to talk to your guy buddies, your family, those who are closer to you. Not her.

 

I know you're lonely and miss that closeness and intimacy, but going to her for that now is not a good idea.

 

IF you want to meet someone, get out and do just that. Even if it's not serious, have some fun. Go out with the boys and do some flirting, that is good for the ego!

[littlebopeep]

You need to let her go goodguy.I know you are feeling the pain of losing her but writing a letter could make that pain worse.If i can tell you whats just happened to me it may make you rethink.

 

My ex dumped me 7 months ago also.We have had little contact but a few weeks ago he spoke to me on msn.We both support our local football team and as hes away he told me he was going to try and make it home.He asked if i was going for a drink before or after the match and that he would probably meet up for 1.

 

On the day of the match he phoned me and said he couldnt make it home but to cheer them on for him and he would speak later.He seemed really pleased to speak to me.

 

A few days ago he talked to me on msn again.He said he was coming home for the weekend and asked if i was going out.I said i would be and that we could have a drink.He said he would let me know when.Ive heard nothing and i know he was going back tonight.

 

I feel like hes playing games just for an ego boost which is a nasty thing to do knowing how much they hurt us.How would you feel if you wrote a letter and she didnt reply.She should leave you alone and let you get on with your life because each time she contacts you stops the process of moving on.

 

I was with my ex 4.5 years and its taken me up until this weekend to realise that he doesnt want me he wants his ego boosting but as from now no more.Hes history and i hope i never see him again.Let him find some1 else to boost his ego.You should do the same too,you deserve better.

[goodguy123]

Trust me whichway, I've already had the bad pain, she already has a new boyfriend. But she still calls me. I mean, for a while, she would call every day even though she had a new boyfriend.

 

But it just kills me when I hear people talking about her or see her on the other end of the phone with friends.

 

And I would love to meet someone, but I'm pretty shy,and I'm terrible at flirting. I am very busy lately but I've been going out more and trying to meet someone, but it just hasn't happened. Even just a date would be nice..........

[Kelso]

Don't worry my good man...

 

I think I know exactly what is happening to you. You're extremely bored and you don't have anything to do just right now. So you turned on your laptop and she popped into your mind. You went and checked her MySpace and probably her friends MySpace too. Then you went on and checked her blog and read everything that she's been up to lately.

 

At the same time you're feeling so lonely inside and you might even be worrying that you might end up all alone (hence the fact you said "I'm terrible at flirting"). Well newsflash for you. You're just having a relapse and right now you are an emotional wreck. So I suggest you put on your running shoes and go outside and run a mile ... or ten ... depends on your shape

 

Then take a shower and think about if it really is a good idea to write her a letter. I'll promise you ... you won't feel the need in about an our if you get her out of your mind for a minute.

 

If I'm wrong. Just write the damn letter, but don't even think about posting it. Just print it and hide it in your closet and read it next Monday again. If you've managed 7 months without her, you can do a week more. If you still feel the urge to send the mail...then tear it into parts and throw it a way and go out for another mile.

 

You said that she already has another boyfriend. Well that sucks, but a letter from you, 7 months post breakup won't change anything. It really sucks.

 

Just keep your chin up, it's gonna be alright. I promise

[kepners]

simple BE A MAN. be strong.

 

u have to stop thinking about her and move on now. When u have moved on and got with someone else blah blah blah, go back and be friends.

 

basically all shes doing is making sure you still love her whilst .... and i mean this in the nicest way, whilst shes beiung done!

listen bruv, there is no way on gods green earth she will be thinking about you when shes with him! you know this! all she wants is you as a friend and for you to still be in love with her. so she gets the upper hand on this man, so shes always got you as backup.

 

Bruv be a Man! A striong man!! ITS HER LOSS!! not urs!!! i would swear almore in this post, bruv please be a man a get so strenght!! you wouldnt act this way if u fell out with your best mate!! so why her, if she was all that she would realise what you are. but she aint!

her loss!

MOVE ON!

get someone else... you never know, by doing that you might turn the tables in your favour!

 

oh and one more thing! dont let ur mate mug u off about how fiut she is!!! remind them beauty is only ****ing skin deep and age will catch her up.

K

[whichwayisup]

But she still calls me. I mean, for a while, she would call every day even though she had a new boyfriend.

 

Then you just need to tell her not to call you anymore. Straight up. It's selfish of her to expect you to listen to her stuff, and hear about her new boyfriend. It's just cruel. I mean, you could tell her "how do you think YOU'D feel if the situation was reversed? And I was dating someone new and kept calling you, telling you about it all." Maybe if she understood how much it hurts you, she'd stop and back off...