Lizzie60 Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 Anyone here agree that sex is probability the strongest reason to keep on with OM? I do think and believe that many women here really want to stop the affair and work their marriage, but....... they CAN'T! Why? Ok, there are many guilty feelings to live that double life so they try many times to stop, to stop and TO STOP! But it's really hard as it started... in my case... Sex is the reason why I see the OM... and the reason why they stay with me... Love is not an issue on either side. So it wouldn't be hard for me to leave them any day... I am not 'attached' to any of them... I like them a lot but I am not in love with them.
GregsBad Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 You can unless you are an idiot, it's very possible to not take off your clothes and spread your legs. It doesn't take a rocket scientist. .... Anyway, you seem awfully smug. Bridget - Just a little smug yourself there! Good for you - that resistance is that easy. Just leave you clothes on and don't spread your legs. So when you hear so many girls talking about how tempting and addictive sex is ... did you ever wonder why it isn't so tempting for you ? I have my theories but I'm curious about this from your view?
GregsBad Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I get so tired of hearing men cheat for sex and women cheat for emotional reasons. Bullsh*t--women cheat for sex also. Good sex for a woman is priceless. If the sex is good for a woman she will put up with damn near anything and it's sad. Thank you for that! There are many women that are very very into it just for sex. I know women who totally agree when I say that sex ranks with air food and water. Let's figure this out ... I can survive without: - Air for minutes - Water for days - Food for weeks OK - so then sex ranks with water! Girls - do you agree? ---- This IS on topic! Not you Bridget - I know you can go for longer
annabelle75 Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 Thank you for that! There are many women that are very very into it just for sex. I know women who totally agree when I say that sex ranks with air food and water. Let's figure this out ... I can survive without: - Air for minutes - Water for days - Food for weeks OK - so then sex ranks with water! Girls - do you agree? ---- This IS on topic! Not you Bridget - I know you can go for longer I agree! And to be honest I think great sex is harder for women to find then men. Honestly I think even bad sex for men isn't so bad. As long as they get off its ok. For women its harder to find come one that is compatible to making "it" happen. So when we do find it, it's hard to let go. And we are liable to put up with almost anything to get it. Atleast for me this is true.
mopar crazy Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 My WH didn't have an A w/ the xOW b/c of sex. Sex wasn't even part of their A until he said he wanted a D. I kicked him out of martial home and then the sex started. I'm not positive how long their EA started but I'm pretty sure it was a few months. We took a vacation in Dec of 2002 and he told me he wanted a D in April of 2003. After we reconciled I asked him if he was having an A w/ her and feelings about leaving the M when we went on our vacation. He said there was nothing going on between them and at the time he never thought about D. So, the A was short lived. I think once they started working closer together after the first of the year was when the feelings started towards each other. WH was stupid and didn't put much thought into what he was doing. Three months of an EA and he wanted a D and then 2 months later he admitted to the A and wanted to reconcile. Dumb ass!!! Somethings telling me the sex wasn't all that great and once he was a part of the OW's life outside of work he woke the he!! up. I have to agree w/ the above post. I've had some pretty crappy lovers b4 H. They sucked in bed! Only cared about themselves getting off. Foreplay, or lack of it, was a big joke! Now WH on the other hand, he is an awesome lover! Best I have ever had and hate to admit it, I wasn't exactly an angel b4 H came along.
Not_That_Innocent Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 I agree! And to be honest I think great sex is harder for women to find then men. Honestly I think even bad sex for men isn't so bad. As long as they get off its ok. For women its harder to find come one that is compatible to making "it" happen. So when we do find it, it's hard to let go. And we are liable to put up with almost anything to get it. Atleast for me this is true. You hit the nail on the head with this one! Letting go of the OM has been difficult for me because I enjoyed the sex so much. He has the total package as far as the bedroom is concerned, and you're right, I accepted almost anything to get what he was putting out.
GregsBad Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 During the many years with my MW ... Although I thought she'd one day get free and I was/am deeply in love with her, it was the sex! We both did things for each other, got off by getting each other off. I have no idea where she'd get all her new ideas from. I worked out, kept her favorite parts buff and smooth (more guys need to learn about oils and manicures etc - for her sake). I took dancing lessons, cooking lessons ... all the time to keep her happy ... and she did likewise for me. It was years of intense bliss ... and it was the sex! Only after I finally figured out that she'd never leave him for me, and another year of getting the courage, did I finally end it. I'm very sure I did the right thing. I say to myself, "I did the right thing", a thousands times each day. Then I answer back to myself, "Nope! I'm a dumb f*ck for giving her up!" I miss her so much and I miss the sex. At least I learned how great it is give that way. We taught each other that. I feel sorry for married people who aren't getting that from each other. It's the sex! That's my point. To any of you who say "Not in my case" or "not for this friend I knew" ... I say that'e the exception to the rule. Generally speaking - the general rule ... it's the sex ...
GregsBad Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 I went to a therapist who showed me a pack of cards - all blotchy pictures of people having sex. He called it Roar Shock, or something. With each card, he'd ask, "What's this one look like?" "Was he blind?", I thought. And I'd tell him what the people in the drawing were doing to each other. After showing me all of his little stash and making describe each one, he told me I have a dirty mind! But he's the weirdo with all the porn!
Seen_It_All Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 I couldn't even imagine letting my genitals make my decisions for me. That's not even in my personal makeup. So no, sex would be the last thing that would keep me with someone.
Hugh_950 Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 I couldn't even imagine letting my genitals make my decisions for me. That's not even in my personal makeup. So no, sex would be the last thing that would keep me with someone. One day when you genitals are fully developed they'll take right over.
Richard_J Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 I couldn't even imagine letting my genitals make my decisions for me. That's not even in my personal makeup. So no, sex would be the last thing that would keep me with someone. If sex woul be the LAST thing that influenced you decisions. And if you couldn't even IMAGINE being influenced ... Then you're a exception to the general rule. An exceptional exception
GregsBad Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 I couldn't even imagine letting my genitals make my decisions for me. That's not even in my personal makeup. So no, sex would be the last thing that would keep me with someone. And another thing ... My genitals do NOT make my decisions for me! I make my decisions for my genitals.
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