charie_anne Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 I am a 20 year old female and have not gotten a boyfriend yet. I have this guy in one of my class. we always sit together but hardly talk. I have a really big crush on him and don't seem to know what to do. I'm new at this. so please help me. i am a really shy person. i smile at him when we pass by and returns that smile. i don't really know what i should do, i haven't even dated yet. what should i do. HELP!!!
Trialbyfire Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 How about the next time you see him smile and say "Hi, I'm charie_anne, I noticed you're in my [insert name of class] class so I thought I would introduce myself." If he's polite, he'll give you his name and add something trivial as well. Conversation begins. Maybe ask him about something the prof/teacher said, that you supposedly didn't understand.
mental_traveller Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 Introduce yourself, but try to be a bit more flirtatious than just saying Hi and your name. Find something you can tease him about, or ask to borrow something of his then "accidentally" drop it & let him pick it up.
alextop30 Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 ok I would say just go talk to him about anything - guys as everyone else love to give their opinion on something. The best thing is that you do have a class together so just start by asking him - do you know what the homework is and ask him something like what he plans to write and from there the conversation will continue. All I say just don't show him that you are very interested in him at first.
oppath Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 First, there is nothing wrong with having been 20 and not ever having a boyfriend, or even dating. Probably 1/3 of all people in college are similar. It is VERY common. No one speaks about it, but don't be hard on yourself. Not being in a relationship and actively dating you are probably developing other areas of yourself that will lead to better relationships eventually. If you feel it is anxiety or self esteem holding you back, I'd suggest going to student counseling/psychological services and seeing what they can do for you. Often it is only a matter of changing your self image or negative self talk when you are in situations where you may interact with attractive boys. A little (heck, even a medium) amount of anxiety or nervousness IS NORMAL. But if it truly prevents you from taking risks, it might help to see a professional.
Zona76 Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Hi there... I could introduce you to someone... *kidding* It's hard to try and talk to someone when you're shy. The words are there but they get stuck. Life isn't always as it seems. The homework/notes idea sounds good. At least you've spoken. And that's a start... weather chat is too blah... notice his watch or a piece of jewlry he wears and ask where he got it... add you would love to get this for your Dad. (That you're not telling him you want one for your BF) Tells him possibly your're available.
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