Sweetie2007 Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 I just got back from visiting my BF, it was great, we were together for 3 months, bla bla bla, lol... my question is, for all of you who are (or were) in LDR's, specifically those which require a plane to see each other, how do you deal with the financial cost?? I'm not asking for specifics of how much you make or whatever...but I'm a college student, and I work full time, and my BF is in the same situation, and we just are finding it close to impossible to see each other more than once a year! It's killing us, especially me emotionally.... so for those of you who travel, and it costs a small fortune (or at least seems like it does)...how do you manage? Any specific resources that you use? I live in the US, and my BF in Germany, so driving is completely out of the question, and I doubt a boat would be less expensive than a plane......anybody have anything that might help??
DOA Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 I wish I knew the answer to this. I'm soon going to find myself in this situation too. Struggling & poor student, only capable of seeing her boy no more than twice a year (if we are even lucky). Words of encouragement would be good, but I fear I have hit rock bottom with my pessimism.
theapathy Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but you can do some things to make the expense less, I don't know exactly how much, you know it gets VERY expensive in some seasons, and less expensive in others? It even fluctuates in the same week! So, check ALL the airlines that go to Europe some days a week, and you can make a RESERVATION (don't buy it right away), only buy it when you're sure that's the best deal from all the airlines, when u make a reservation it doesn't give much time I think, but at least in a week you can get a better deal than just buying it without researching, of course, try to NEVER fly on high seasons because believe me, that makes the cost almost unaffordable, specially being in your situation. Another thing you can do is see if it's less expensive for HIM to come visit YOU, I don't know why, but I've seen that flight deals are better when it comes to going to the U.S. I hope I helped at least a bit... Believe me, I know how hard it is being in a LDR. I wish you the best of the luck.
Malleus Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 ok, this is a bit of a stretch, but how about this: don't fly to germany. fly to the cheapest place that you can go in Europe as long as it is to an airport that is covered by ryanair or easyjet.. or one of those low fare thingies. Ryanair specifically sometimes has VERY cheap flights within Europe- a friend from germany once visited me, and paid 1 cent for the flight.. plus 15 euros taxes, probably. but anyways, very cheap. I don't know if that makes much difference. but worth researching, I'd say. Also, if you live all the way on the west coast, you could take a low-fare flight to an airport on the east coast. You do have low-fares airlines over there, right?
Author Sweetie2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Author Posted April 10, 2007 Thanks for the replies everyone!! ok, this is a bit of a stretch, but how about this: don't fly to germany. fly to the cheapest place that you can go in Europe as long as it is to an airport that is covered by ryanair or easyjet.. or one of those low fare thingies. Also, if you live all the way on the west coast, you could take a low-fare flight to an airport on the east coast. You do have low-fares airlines over there, right? I will look into flights to other places in Europe. The problem has been, that my BF has a crappy car which is 16 years old, and making a long journey to get me wasn't possible. He's saving for another car now, so hopefully he will get that within the next year, but I'm not so sure... I could also probably book two different flights, I've thought about that...because if I could fly to, say Italy cheaper than Germany, I know that flights from Italy to Germany are pretty cheap if bought from a european site... I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but you can do some things to make the expense less, I don't know exactly how much, you know it gets VERY expensive in some seasons, and less expensive in others? It even fluctuates in the same week! Another thing you can do is see if it's less expensive for HIM to come visit YOU, I don't know why, but I've seen that flight deals are better when it comes to going to the U.S. I flew in and out when I went to see him on a Wednesday, that seems to be the cheapest day to fly to or from there, in what research I have done. It's not possible for him to come here...his schooling/job doesn't allow him time off, and he doesn't have the money, he needs to save for his car, and an apartment, because once he's done school, his mom wants him to be more independant....so it's me going there, unless I suddenly get rich and can pay for EVERYTHING while he comes here.... humm... I wish I knew the answer to this. I'm soon going to find myself in this situation too. Struggling & poor student, only capable of seeing her boy no more than twice a year (if we are even lucky). Words of encouragement would be good, but I fear I have hit rock bottom with my pessimism. I'm sorry to hear of your situation!!! It is definetly hard to only see the one you love a couple of times a year, or less....I find that when I'm apart from him, I can't be over clingy or needy, from what I know of men, and my friends who are in LDR's...they just don't understand our needs...some are better than others at dealing with them..... PM me if you wanna chat about it....
DOA Posted April 11, 2007 Posted April 11, 2007 Thanks for the replies everyone!! It's not possible for him to come here...his schooling/job doesn't allow him time off, and he doesn't have the money, he needs to save for his car, and an apartment, because once he's done school, his mom wants him to be more independant....so it's me going there, unless I suddenly get rich and can pay for EVERYTHING while he comes here.... humm... Thanks for the offer Sweetie2007, I'll definitely contact you if I'm needing some personal advice sometime. Your bf and you sound like you have an awesome relationship and are managing well, BUT, I have to say, just from this quote, that it doesn't sound all so healthy (or fair!) that you are doing all the visiting. I understand what you are saying about the situation, but I think I'd kinda feel really down and a bit low on the priority list if it were me doing the multiple trips consecutive times...
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