ruby_gloom Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Last night I was having a little chat with someone on the phone after I got home. Around almost 2 am, we seem to have lost connection. Thinking that maybe he would call me back, I set my phone to vibrate and put it under my pillow (I usually silence it because I don't want it to start ringing at night, making a lot of noise). Anyway, I think I fell asleep soon after. Later on, my phone started vibrating, waking me up. I pull it out from underneath my pillow, thinking that maybe it was him (the person I was talking to before), but I saw it was a text message and not a phone call. I flipped it open and wondered who could be sending me a text message at 3 am. I click on the little icon, and to my surprise, it was my exbf's number. It was just there, flashing on my phone's screen, waiting for me to read it. When I first saw it, I honestly thought: "NOOOO!!" I quickly flipped my phone closed and threw in underneath my pillow again. I was frightened. I had a pretty bad night with my sister's husband yesterday. I cried a lot, and even after I came back from taking my niece (their kid) out, I still felt bad. I was just scared. I wondered what he could possibly want at 3 am. After some minutes passed, I got my phone again, took a deep breath, and read the message, expecting to feel even more bad than I already was. All it said was a quick hello. He said he couldn't sleep and that he just wanted to say hi and to tell me that he's going back to school soon. That, along with saying that he hoped he hadn't woken me and that he would talk to me later, was all it said. I got teary-eyed again. I hadn't spoken with him in months. There had been no contact at all. And while I felt bad, I also felt angry because--wtf did he want? To say 'hi'? At 3 am? If he couldn't sleep, then he was probably bored or something. Fine. Why not call/text one of his friends? I'm not his friend. He made it clear he didn't want me to be when he stood me up one night after we had broken up, only to never talk to me again. Until now. And he has a sh.tload of friends, too. And all of these 'girl friends.' Why not talk to them instead? It's just that I don't understand. He's the one who was unhappy in our relationship. He was the one who left. Came back. Left. Came back. Left. Came back again. Wash, rinse, and repeat 34567890 times. This last time, I hadn't hear anything for 4 months. Nothing. He's always the one who choses to not talk to me, and when he does, I don't bother him further. Or at least, I try very hard not to. I just don't understand why, after all these months, he would think to send *me* a message at that hour. I shouldn't even be crossing his mind. It's not like he loves me anymore. Today when I woke up, I checked my phone, hoping I had dreamed it, but nope--the message is still right there. Link to post Share on other sites
coco_milkshake Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Hey there I am sorry you are having a tough time with your sister. I know how it is believe me. Things can only get better from here remember that. This is only a temporary arrangement - keep telling yourself this when things get bad. It totally sucks when an ex gets in touch isnt it? I have experienced that too but you have to be strong. He is an 'ex' for a reason. Please take care and cheer up hon. As soon as your PM gets acitvated, send me one sometime in case you want to talk. Love Coco Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 That would really annoy me too, ruby. I would worry that he was bored or horny or between girlfriends and just contacting you to fill the gap. Or that he didn't want to lose power by letting you forget about him and move on. In a best case scenario, he really is having fond memories of you now that the negatives have faded. Still, he should have left you alone. I can understand how it would set you back. Sorry this happened. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 You should write him back. I told you he just needed a little space, but I think you guys still have a chance. What do you have to lose anyway? And for Chrissakes, stop crying all the time Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 I would worry that he was bored or horny or I think it's the latter. He probably had an erection at 2:57 AM. If that happened to me, then I would want to tell someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 I think it's the latter. He probably had an erection at 2:57 AM. If that happened to me, then I would want to tell someone. You know how to take care of that, as should he. By 3:02 he could have been asleep again without annoying ruby. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 You know how to take care of that, as should he. By 3:02 he could have been asleep again without annoying ruby. Well, you only need one hand to text. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Well, you only need one hand to text. Yes, typing on a cell pad is so sexy. Seriously, he was probably drinking. He probably does have some feelings for her. I would be shocked if he didn't, but that doesn't mean it is a good idea to respond to the text. Ruby, you said before that NC felt comfortable and normal to you. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 He probably does have some feelings for her. I agree. Horny feelings. One thing for sure, who in their right mind texts at 3 AM saying "I hope I didn't wake you up"??!! It's just like drunk dialling, really. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 I agree. Horny feelings. One thing for sure, who in their right mind texts at 3 AM saying "I hope I didn't wake you up"??!! Yeah, everyone knows 3 AM is the middle of the day...for some people. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Yeah, everyone knows 3 AM is the middle of the day...for some people. :lmao: :p Link to post Share on other sites
Author ruby_gloom Posted April 8, 2007 Author Share Posted April 8, 2007 As soon as your PM gets acitvated, send me one sometime in case you want to talk. Thanks, coco dearest. Things with my sister are not too bad, it's the things with her husband that are. He is driving me crazy, to say the very, very least. I know this is temporary, but sometimes I wonder how much more I can take before I snap. Either way, thanks. I'll keep what you've told me in mind. Seriously, he was probably drinking. He probably does have some feelings for her. I would be shocked if he didn't, but that doesn't mean it is a good idea to respond to the text. Ruby, you said before that NC felt comfortable and normal to you. I think he was, too. But I know that when he's not 'with me', he drinks a lot in general. So, while he may have been drinking last night, it's not like he hasn't been doing so other nights. If he had the 'restraint' to not contact me before, he should have had the same this time, too. I don't see why he wouldn't this time. I know I always encouraged him to get his GED and to go back to school (he dropped out of HS) and that I even helped him with some subjects when he was going to take the GED test (he ended up not taking it, though), so I guess I can understand perhaps wanting to share that with me, but even if it was that, it didn't mean that he actually had to. I am more comfortable when I don't talk to him. It just hurts me to know about all of the things (and probably girls, too) that he is doing. It's just to painful, and while I might miss him, I prefer to not speak to him or have him speak to me, especially when he's the one who makes it clear he doesn't want anything to do with me. I'm not a toy. I agree. Horny feelings. One thing for sure, who in their right mind texts at 3 AM saying "I hope I didn't wake you up"??!! It's just like drunk dialling, really. Yes on the drunk dialing comparison, but no on the horny feelings. He's not like that. Besides, he friends with many girls, most of which are prettier than me, so I don't see why he would have any trouble there. It just bothers me more because it was so late at night. I wonder what a person lying down in bed at 3 AM be thinking, and I want to think that they are fond thoughts, but I know that I'm just trying to delude myself into thinking that he might still care. It's so stupid. And haha, yea. I wonder if he thinks I'm awake at all hours of the day. You should write him back. I told you he just needed a little space, but I think you guys still have a chance. No. And for Chrissakes, stop crying all the time I can't help it. I have feelings. I know that's a foreign concept to you, but please try to understand. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Besides, he friends with many girls, most of which are prettier than me, so I don't see why he would have any trouble there. There are many dimensions to a person's appeal, so it's not just looks that can make one horny. Having said that, I wouldn't put yourself down. You are probably the hottest girl he knows. Mind you, you would only just scrape into my top ten. It's pretty competitive. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Well, you only need one hand to text. :laugh: too true Link to post Share on other sites
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