Imagine that! I actually ended the affair! But still a question....

[sunflower1008]

I haven't been on in quite a while, but I still need some help from all my friends here. To make a long story short....

 

I was involved with a MM for 5 months. I found out he had GREAT lines...such as "you are so special to me", "you could be my soulmate", "I'm falling in love with you". How did I find out these were lines you ask? Because he accidently chatted with my friend and I found out he was still looking. I was so hurt and this was the second time he did this. We worked thru the first time, but this second time was too much for me.

 

So I just ended it on Friday. I was calm to him, told him how I felt, told him what I found out, told him he had great "lines" and he won't have trouble finding another lady. I didn't yell, I knew this was the right thing to do, and I was honest and felt good about how I handled it. At the end of our convo, he wanted to know if he can still call me and I said "I think we both need some time". Which meant, I thought I wouldn't hear from him for a while.

 

Today, I log on and there is an offline message saying "I'm thinking about you and Happy Easter". Should I respond? If I do, it would be short and to the point (Have a Happy Easter too). I honestly don't mind responding, but we would never go back to the affair. I don't trust him and he has been diminished in my eyes.

 

Thanks for all your support....

[Freedom Now]

My xMM has sent me two emails and a text message in the last two days. I walked away from him, too, and it has been one year since D-day.

 

I didn't respond to any of his attempts at contact. There is simply nothing left to say. He had his chance with me and he blew it. And as for your MM, let him go on his fishing expedition. But, it shows more class and dignity for you to walk away and STAY away. You must make him see that you are serious. This is O-V-E-R.

 

You made your feelings known, now he must live in your choice. Don't get sucked back into a "friendship." It is beneath you.

 

Say nothing to him. Those actions speak far more than any words you would respond to him with.

 

But this is JMHO.

[Ruby Tuesday]

He just wants to get laid and keep you on the hook.

[Seen_It_All]

I found out he had GREAT lines...such as "you are so special to me", "you could be my soulmate", "I'm falling in love with you".

LOL...they all say that. I'm sure it's from the secret MM Handbook of Lies.

 

How did I find out these were lines you ask? Because he accidently chatted with my friend and I found out he was still looking.

Still "looking" for WHAT? Isn't this jerk married? What a scumbag.

 

I was so hurt and this was the second time he did this.

In all fairness, you KNEW the guy was a lying cheat when you started seeing him. Why would you be surprised to find out what a sleazeball he is when you knew it from Day #1?

 

Today, I log on and there is an offline message saying "I'm thinking about you and Happy Easter". Should I respond?

What the He*ll FOR? Better yet, why don't you send his LAME message to his wife? I'm sure she'd appreciate knowing what a complete scumbag she REALLY married.

 

I don't trust him and he has been diminished in my eyes.

He should have been diminished in your eyes the second he hit on you 5 months ago. This guy has less integrity and character than a garden slug. What a complete LOSER.

[kymberann]

First of all good for you for ending it! You knew it was time!

 

Second:

but we would never go back to the affair. I don't trust him and he has been diminished in my eyes.

 

Then why bother replying? It would only give him satisfation that you are "still available" in one form or another. You don't need it!

[sadbuttrue]

i think you should ignore him.

 

you know i understand the concept of being hurt that he might be looking for another OW, even though you knew he had a W. it seems more like an assault on your R with him. you knew about the W and had accepted that to some extent, but to bring in another OW would be an insult to you.