chill chic Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 I went out lastnight for my friend's birthday and all of her friends. This girl and I were the only single girl's there. Well during the night, while we were at a bar, 2 of the guys there were taken came & sat by me (different times) one put his arm around me, and I asked him, "don't you have a girlfriend here?" So I scooted away, and his friend told him sit next to him. He had been drinking but come on, I was too and I wasn't going to start any drama. Then the other guy came and sat next to me, after he had been staring at me all night (kinda creepily) and starting inching closer to me, but I'd look over and he'd just be looking at me, so I was ignoring him. Then later this girl came up to him, and she asked him about their kids. I was like what?! So yah he was even married, and still be sleezing. I had JUST posted a thread about a married guy wanting to date me, and now I get 2 more guys that are obviously taken were hitting on me So what is the deal with guys? And why are they so sleezy?! And also, whenever I'll go out, other people just kinda stare, even girls for that matter, and if kinda makes me feel uncomfortable, because I wonder if other people notice that people are looking hard. It's ok to know that I'm nice to look at but why do people have to be so creepy about it?!
someone2 Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 Haha, this thread is actually funny chillchic You just ran into one of those days. We live so many days in our lives, that there is always the chance of some unusual coincidences like this one to happen. The best thing to do is to just forget about it. It doesn't have anything to do with you. Just some unusual coincidence. I have some similar stories happening to me (and I am a guy!), you just learn not to care about them
Sweetie2007 Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 except the other way around...I generally am only attracted to the guys who are already taken, or have kids and are too old for me. One time, I really liked this guy I was in a class with at school, we'd sit next to each other because he was good at the subject, and i wasn't... I didn't hit on him too hard, but a little, very casual and friendly, so one day he goes in, and says he needs to leave class early because it's his daughters birtday (not too bad, i knew he was like 3+ years older than me, and his daughter was turning 2), and also his anniversery...married 3 years.......oooh boy!! I tried not to look shocked, and pretended i needed to get more lead for my pencil from my backpack, but i was totally shocked, and slightly heart broken! lol.........this weekend some guy who's married and has a kid was hitting on me big time, we'd both been drinking, so i blame that.... It happens to everyone at least once......take it as a compliment that people are attracted to you!
Fun2BMe Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 And also, whenever I'll go out, other people just kinda stare, even girls for that matter, and if kinda makes me feel uncomfortable, because I wonder if other people notice that people are looking hard. If you are constantly thinking that everybody is staring at you, you seriously might have some type of paranoia such as paranoia schizophrenia (not sure if I spelled that right). I think it might be easily treatable or contained with meds. As to your other issue of married men constantly hitting on you - I think that is a widespread problem across the country/world. I would say that equal numbers of married to single men hit on me, one of the reasons I get cold feet about marriage. As for the drunk married with kids guy hitting on you at the bar - had you seen him sober on the street wearing a suit, you'd never guess he's just another one of the married guys cheating behind his wife.
StayClose Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 The reason married guys hit on you is because many married women lose interest in sex and after being repeatedly rejected, married men start to look for that kind of attention elsewhere. They don't necessarily want to cheat (though some do), but having a pretty girl pay attention to them helps them feel better about themselves. Now I have a question for you... I assume that when you go out you dress in a manner to draw attention. So what is the difference betweeen the kind of attention you hope to get, and the kind of attention you find creepy?
Author chill chic Posted April 10, 2007 Author Posted April 10, 2007 The reason married guys hit on you is because many married women lose interest in sex and after being repeatedly rejected, married men start to look for that kind of attention elsewhere. They don't necessarily want to cheat (though some do), but having a pretty girl pay attention to them helps them feel better about themselves. Now I have a question for you... I assume that when you go out you dress in a manner to draw attention. So what is the difference betweeen the kind of attention you hope to get, and the kind of attention you find creepy? i was wearing jeans and a cute top that wasn't tight, nor was it revealing. so it has nothing to do with the way i dress. i get the same attention if i was wearing a dress/skirt/jeans or any kind of top. usually i just mind my own business and they come flocking lol.
Author chill chic Posted April 10, 2007 Author Posted April 10, 2007 If you are constantly thinking that everybody is staring at you, you seriously might have some type of paranoia such as paranoia schizophrenia (not sure if I spelled that right). I think it might be easily treatable or contained with meds. As to your other issue of married men constantly hitting on you - I think that is a widespread problem across the country/world. I would say that equal numbers of married to single men hit on me, one of the reasons I get cold feet about marriage. As for the drunk married with kids guy hitting on you at the bar - had you seen him sober on the street wearing a suit, you'd never guess he's just another one of the married guys cheating behind his wife. i guarantee you that it's not because i'm paranoid, them staring at me, well certain people, yes can make me kinda weirded out if they are being overly obnoxious about it that's all.
Fun2BMe Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 The reason married guys hit on you is because many married women lose interest in sex and after being repeatedly rejected, married men start to look for that kind of attention elsewhere. They don't necessarily want to cheat (though some do), but having a pretty girl pay attention to them helps them feel better about themselves. Now I have a question for you... I assume that when you go out you dress in a manner to draw attention. So what is the difference betweeen the kind of attention you hope to get, and the kind of attention you find creepy? You might as well come out and say that you think women who get raped deserve it if they were dressed in a manner that draws attention. Just because a woman dresses like a woman doesn't mean she's asking to get hit on by a married man and should find it acceptable behavior. She might have good taste and like to dress and look nice, she could be a lesbian for all you know. I hate it when men make assumptions that if a woman doesn't conceal her femininity then she deserves any type of attention that comes her way, good or bad.
Author chill chic Posted April 10, 2007 Author Posted April 10, 2007 You might as well come out and say that you think women who get raped deserve it if they were dressed in a manner that draws attention. Just because a woman dresses like a woman doesn't mean she's asking to get hit on by a married man and should find it acceptable behavior. She might have good taste and like to dress and look nice, she could be a lesbian for all you know. I hate it when men make assumptions that if a woman doesn't conceal her femininity then she deserves any type of attention that comes her way, good or bad. no i'll be honest i like the attention from guys, but the good attention, not the creepy attention, those are the kind that follow you home or come on too strong. and you're right, i do like to dress with style, not slutty in any way, just a cute girly way, and i love to wear dresses so a girl should be able to wear whatever she wants, and if she's confident in what she wears, that's all that matters, in my opinon at least.
Author chill chic Posted April 10, 2007 Author Posted April 10, 2007 and like someone said..it was just one of those nights
Fun2BMe Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 Yes, I agree with you on that. I don't think someone can justify bad behavior based on what you were wearing!
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