Pyro Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 Because it is the truth. Women in general who make more than their husbands lose respect for them. They start seeing him as beneath them and start treating him as one of the children. So then why don't you state it like that? You always post it as everything being one extreme or the other.
reservoirdog1 Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 I was wondering if a husband can stay at home and take care of the household and kids while the wife is at work feeding the family? Do you think that somehow this undermines the dignity of men? It totally depends on the views of the wife in question. A lot of women are fine with it and have embraced equality, rather than just paying lip service to it. Some are still hopelessly mired in the 1950s. I did the SAH dad thing for a year, right before I started law school. I wouldn't have wanted to do it if it had been an indefinite thing -- I entered into it knowing that it would only be for a year. Everybody I talked to about it apparently thought it was great. I remember being concerned about breaking the news to my boss at the time -- he was a 60-something English guy who'd been in the Royal Navy, seemed pretty traditional. But I told him, and he shocked the hell out of me by saying he thought that was great, that he wished it had been acceptable for men to do that when he'd been my age, and that he'd always felt like he'd missed out on a big chunk of his kids' formative years because he had to work. In fact, the only person who apparently lost respect for me due to doing that for a year, was the now-XW. And you know what... even knowing that, I don't regret it and if I had to do it all over again, I'd still do it. Regardless of what XW thought about it.
portableversion Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 It was more worthwhile than any piece of crap wage slave job I can get. And besides my wife is a lawyer, and for me to make the money she does I would have to become a full time crack dealer or just plain start murdering people. I've been to college got a degree but still can only get jobs you'd think would be for slaves and illegal immigrants, we didn't want a stranger raising our kid so I stayed home--- besides can't feel like a man when you bust your buttfor $6.50/hr yeah and now i do have a job ,no raises ,no benefits 7.00/hr---- viva la revolution!!!!!!
JustBreathe Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 Listen, if I made more money than my husband, I would not care in the least if he wanted to stay home with the kids. My H and I considered his staying home with your youngest for a few years when his company downsized and he lost his job. He did this for 8 months and said that he felt less a man and during that time so he went back to work and I went to part-time again. But he is a macho kind of guy, works with construction workers, and just didn't feel okay with it. My career has always come second to his because I've been busy with the kids but I would have loved the opportunity to go back to school and build my career. I'd be making more money now. While it lasted, it was NICE coming home to a clean house, laundry done and dinner cooking on the stove. I for once had time for other things.
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