alextop30 Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 ok here is very short story of what happened couple of days ago . I walk into this X-sport gym in the southern subarbs of chicago, as soon as I walk in there is this girl that greets me and I am just stunned, It is like I fell in love with her the moment I saw her and let me tell you I havent had that big of a stunning since I was 10. Ok so I tried to talk to her once but she compleately waved me off. I dont know if she is the little bit interested and let me just say I do have hard time starting conversation because I know nothing about her. But my biggest question here is Do chicks that work at the gym, or the local sports club go there to check out the muscular guys that are basically ripped or do they go there for some kind of a job and to meet people ofcourse? Also if you feel like giving some more advice can u give me sample questions which I can ask her to find a little more so I can actually get a nice interesting conversation going instead of just hi, hello, the weather today is nice and so on ...... just absolutely nothing I want to hear. I know this question is out of the blue but still I am wondering if she is interested in me because, I am not one of those ripped guys that has a 6 pack and biseps like mountains.
Enema Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 Does she work there, or is she just a member? I'd say she's not interested in you (yet) because from your post, she doesn't know you and vice versa. You need to establish more of a personal relationship than just a greeting. If she works there, ask for advice on how to target a specific area, should be easy to get a conversation going from there.
Author alextop30 Posted April 8, 2007 Author Posted April 8, 2007 yes she works there - I know at this time she might not seem interested but maybe interest will come as I connect with her. I was actually wondering if the chicks who work there are they looking for the bodybuilder's bodies - like 6 pack, biceps as mountains and chest that is as hard as a rock. Basically my question are they just looking for the outside perfect because to me it seems like some of them are looking exactly at that. So I am really not sure. Other question was if you can give me some hypothetical questions that I may ask so she doesnt think that I am creepy but just interested. I need to know something more than her name about her so I can conduct a nice conversation.
Enema Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 You can't blanket every female gym employee as looking for bodybuilders bodies. I'm sure that many gym girls are looking for men with great bodies as I'm equally sure that many gym girls don't care so much. I would hazard a guess that as they're working in the field, the chances are high that they would first be attracted to men who take care of themselves in that way. If it was me, again I would just ask for pointers on targetting a certain muscle group or area of my body. Show her that you respect her opinion and hopefully the conversation should flow from there.
Walk Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 I'm not saying this in a mean way, but I can't help seeing the irony of the situation... So.. You were instantly attracted to her based solely on her appearance, yet you want her to see past your appearance because you don't feel you measure up to the ideal male form? I love how men think. It blows rational right out of the water. haha (nothing wrong with the above. I just find it ironic.)
Green Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 Your making no sense Alex of course not all girls at the gym are into only dating iron men. Whether she likes you or not you might as wel just go up to her and chat her up look for any signals what so ever and just ask her out if she gives you one or you even think shes given you one. If she says no I would just back off completly and never talk to her again. You could do a couple of conversation starters, you could make a curent event joke like " they say Anna nicole smith worked out here once" then she might smile and say really or just relise ur kidding. You could just say "Hi I'm Alex whats ur name want to spot me" or how about"whats your number I deleted it out of my phone"
LaughMachine Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 lol I go to the gym strictly for myself through tanning and working out. I don't go there to buzz out some hot guys and if there is a hot guy, which there usually is. I still am in my own little world with working out. Maybe if your desperate will you go to the gym to find dates lol jk But that doesn't mean you can't start conversation with her when you are both at the gym. I would find that kinda hard and frustrating as to go about doing that though? lol
Author alextop30 Posted April 9, 2007 Author Posted April 9, 2007 ok here is a defence explonation kinna. Walk thanks for the great point that u put out there. I know this is compleately irrational and ironical but I can say many things about love are irrational and ironical so that kinna is my explanation. I am not ugly in fact I will put my picture on my profile so u can debate on that as much as you want. The thing about her is not that she is like the porn star that you would see in playboy this week but something that I really havent seen in other girls. Also I would have to defend myself because the physical attraction is what makes the first spark and interest with people because if there is no physical attraction there will be no interest. My wondering is really weather I have any chanse or if there is any use chasing after her if she is working there just for the chance to meet iron men or maybe she would possibly concider giving me a fair chance to get to know me. Also here is where I believe irony kinna falls apart because I said I noticed her between many girls I have seen something different - it may be physical the thing tho is I will turn my back as soon as I see a big flaw in her attitude - an example of this attitude would be ( she thinks that she is miss perfect and that she is the prettiest girl in the world and that no one deserves her). I dont know if I make too much cense but in 2 words. I am wondering if there is a chanse for me to get to know her a little better - yes I was and still am stunned by outer buty but still I could turn back around any time and just forget about her because of the inner person problems. hopefully my big rambling did not leave u comfused.... I am sorry but when my thought is in couple of directions it tends to be even not clear in my head.
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