olimits7 Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 Hello, My GF and I broke up recently. I first went on a break with her, which she told me hurt her a lot, and now she decided that she didn't understand why I needed a break and now she needed time for herself; so now we're broken up. Anyway, all I keep hearing from my friends and other people that have been in this situation is for some reason after you stop talking you will most of the time receive a phone call from that person either 3, 4, 5, etc... months after not talking anymore. My question is WHAT is the reasoning behind this, and WHY to they do this??? I've been trying to not let this break up occurr but it seems like she hates me more the more I try to pursue her now. Even some of her close friends tell me just let it go; she just needs time, she will call you because she misses you. But I don't understand this because if we don't talk or see each other she will hook up with other people and so will I. And it will bother me more knowing that she has been seeing other people and then if she calls me 3 months later; I'm just going to be like OK let's get back together. Because I won't knowing she has been with other guys!!!! Thanks, olimits7
Dubb Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 I know it sux man. Sometimes seeing other guys is what it takes to bring them back. Grass is never greener. For some odd reason people like to fall on their face before they can realize a mistake. If you are worried about her seeing other people just make sure you take this time to do the same. Maybe you will meet someone else and not want her back.
Trialbyfire Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 If someone goes to find greener grass for a few months of NC, I'm of the belief that they're not worth the effort. The reasons why it would bother me so much is that it's either a situation of not being able to find someone better or not being to find someone at all. More like a fall-back plan than true caring. I would have serious trust issues with someone like this.
mental_traveller Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 Who cares if she calls in 3-5 months? By then you will be over her and probably gone with other girls, just like you said. Just email her now and say you understand her reasons, but now that it's over you want it do be done for good, a clean break. Then politely request that she never calls, emails, texts, or contacts you in any way ever again. If she calls you in future, remind her of what you said, and then say goodbye and hang up. Simple, direct, and effective. A nice clean break, that's what you need. So yeah, I would treat this as a final, no going back breakup, and tell her so. Then you can do what they hell you like, tear it up with every hot chick in town, without any guilt or future drama.
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