VirtualInsanity Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Anyone found online dating to work? In a couple of months I'm moving to AZ for graduate school. I don't know anyone or know where to start for meeting people. Any advice?
tanbark813 Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 I've gotten good results with Match. The girls tend to be a little more flaky but that comes with the territory. By and large it's been worth the money. Stay away from eHarmony though.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 How about yahoo personals? I've been looking at it but most guys say the same thing. Majority are good looking which leds me to believe they want flings.
tanbark813 Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 How about yahoo personals? I've been looking at it but most guys say the same thing. Majority are good looking which leds me to believe they want flings. Yahoo is okay but I personally had better experience with Match. It wouldn't hurt to try a month on both and then just go with whichever one you like more after that.
Topper Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 What school will you be going to in AZ? I know that as a Grad student it will be more difficult to meet someone. The initial work load alone will have an effect on your social life. I have been getting some good results from match.com I had one girl who was very up front about what she wanted. She like you was going to Grad school. She wanted Sugardaddy to pay for it all. You could say she had her own ideas of a scholarship program. She really was Hot. I'm sure she is going to find her Sugardaddy. It just wasn't going to be me. I need to start making more money. So I to can aspire to be a Sugardaddy.
Island Girl Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Anyone found online dating to work? In a couple of months I'm moving to AZ for graduate school. I don't know anyone or know where to start for meeting people. Any advice? If you are going to ASU it won't be a problem meeting people. It is VERY social. There is a lot to do there, nice weather - even in the summer it is okay at night to go out. I had a fantastic time while I was in college there! You will too.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 What school will you be going to in AZ? I know that as a Grad student it will be more difficult to meet someone. The initial work load alone will have an effect on your social life. I have been getting some good results from match.com I had one girl who was very up front about what she wanted. She like you was going to Grad school. She wanted Sugardaddy to pay for it all. You could say she had her own ideas of a scholarship program. She really was Hot. I'm sure she is going to find her Sugardaddy. It just wasn't going to be me. I need to start making more money. So I to can aspire to be a Sugardaddy. I'm attending AU. I know it will be hard since I'm going for Psychology.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 If you are going to ASU it won't be a problem meeting people. It is VERY social. There is a lot to do there, nice weather - even in the summer it is okay at night to go out. I had a fantastic time while I was in college there! You will too. Yea! Someone's lived there.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 I'm scared to move there. Don't know anyone and heard a lot of horrible things. (Scorpions! and Valley Fever)
Island Girl Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Yea! Someone's lived there. Yes and it was a BLAST. My grades suffered a bit because of the social scene. There really is a lot to do there. Meeting new people was easy -- there are so many people that even those who have been there a long time meet new people consistently. It will be great. -- We used to go out every night except Mondays. It seemed like everybody did.
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 What school will you be going to in AZ? I know that as a Grad student it will be more difficult to meet someone. The initial work load alone will have an effect on your social life. I have been getting some good results from match.com I had one girl who was very up front about what she wanted. She like you was going to Grad school. She wanted Sugardaddy to pay for it all. You could say she had her own ideas of a scholarship program. She really was Hot. I'm sure she is going to find her Sugardaddy. It just wasn't going to be me. I need to start making more money. So I to can aspire to be a Sugardaddy. You should tell her to join sugardaddie.com. That is a dating site for women who want millionaires, for real.
Enema Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 I actually met my fiancè online. Back in the days of IRC. That was 6 years ago, still going strong.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 You should tell her to join sugardaddie.com. That is a dating site for women who want millionaires, for real. Are you serious?
oppath Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 For some reason I always sign up for yahoo before MATCH (usually I'll spot 1 or 2 girls who somehow seem more appealing) but I always have less success. It's not a bad idea to spend 1 month on both and choose, but MORE PEOPLE are on match. That in itself can overwhelm you. The thing about grad school...there will be 1000 people just like you in the same boat...new grad students who don't need anyone. However, many people don't like to date other grad students, at least not within the same program. Online may be a fun way to meet some new people and explore the city. As with any dating, online dating should SUPPLEMENT ways you are trying to make new friends, better yourself, and meet people. It is one path and you should not really on it as your only dating option. Don't worry about making friends. Don't worry about not knowing anyone. You will meet people. I just moved to a new town and am online dating to get me out of the house because I don't know anyone. It's a good way to have some fun and explore the city. It is worth the money, but I'm also planning many other activities to make friends and meet people.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 The thing about grad school...there will be 1000 people just like you in the same boat...new grad students who don't need anyone. However, many people don't like to date other grad students, at least not within the same program. Online may be a fun way to meet some new people and explore the city. As with any dating, online dating should SUPPLEMENT ways you are trying to make new friends, better yourself, and meet people. It is one path and you should not really on it as your only dating option. Don't worry about making friends. Don't worry about not knowing anyone. You will meet people. I just moved to a new town and am online dating to get me out of the house because I don't know anyone. It's a good way to have some fun and explore the city. It is worth the money, but I'm also planning many other activities to make friends and meet people. Is that bad?
bridget_jones Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Yes, I first saw it on Dr. Phil. go to the site.
oppath Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 It's not bad but it's like dating close co-workers. Nothing is wrong with it necessarily, if you meet someone you connect with by all means date that person. It would be stupid to refrain. What is bad is relying on the other students in your grad program for all of your socializing and dating experiences. Make an effort to do things outside of your program -- even outside the university -- and your life will be more enriched. I've been there. I was getting my PhD (still am just on a leave of absence). I prefer the company of people not in my program. A big part of it is that often, people in your program are stressed at the same time as you. No one can pick you up if that is the case.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 Problem for me is the program IS my life. I'm wrapped up in it. Fun for me is watching tv while talking online or working out. I suck! I did party a lot but stopped when grades went down. I use to do a lot but that was back in the day. So I thought online would be better.
bg1975 Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 VI, University of Arizona is commonly referred at UofA just so you know. Us Sun Devils have other words for the school. Tucson is a fun town, but not a whole lot to do. The students there at the campus are EXTREMELY INVOVLED in campus activites. You should have no problems meeting people while you are there. If you are Greek, that will help as it is a big Greek campus. Although you have graduated, you actually might still meet regional alums who stayed in Tucson. My brother went to the UofA and really had a great time. Good luck!
mental_traveller Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 Anyone found online dating to work? In a couple of months I'm moving to AZ for graduate school. I don't know anyone or know where to start for meeting people. Any advice? I've found it 90% a waste of time, but 10% you can get lucky. After trying it a few months I made a strict policy of using it just to exchange emails/phone numbers and then meet up asap. That way it becomes almost identical to meeting someone in the street or a coffee shop and exchanging numbers. Once you meet fast, it goes back to "normal dating" and is pretty much the same IMO. The problems arise when you exchange endless emails, online chats etc, and start interacting with a person's online persona instead of real life face to face. That gives a false view of people and creates illusory interaction and sometimes feelings that don't exist. Then after 2-3 weeks or more, you meet up and realise you don't find them really attractive - yet you can feel pressure to continue because now you are "friends" and kind of get on. I did meet a handful of people online that made it worthwhile, but overall 90% of the time I spent with it was wasted. But I don't think any other form of dating has a better hit rate really.
Author VirtualInsanity Posted April 8, 2007 Author Posted April 8, 2007 Thanks. Maybe it's best to play by year.
Topper Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 What no sugarmommas.com? THAT'S DICRIMINATION!!!!!!! I demand to my right to be a kept man by a wealthy woman.
Starry-eyed Posted April 8, 2007 Posted April 8, 2007 VI, don't you think you'll meet people at school? Or is it that you don't want to date other grad students? I don't think I could do online dating. Looking at someone's pic with no context of personality (in-person personality) and voice and just general vibe just does not engender any interest in me. And when I browse around online dating sites, no one in my age range looks attractive or interesting, they all seem desperate.
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