sadandanxious Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Please read my other post "out of the blue, its over"(http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t116047/?highlight=out+of+the+blue) ....to sum it up, my boyfriend broke up with me after 7 perfect months (at least thats what it seemed to me, friends and his family as I have been told). He looked happy, I was happy...everything was great, practically lived together. One day, he says to me he is not sure were we were heading, that he didn't see himself married now (he is his early 30's, he is not a kid) and that maybe this was a sign that it was not meant to be. I am just having such a difficult time trying to understand this....I mean, can you tell somebody yo love them and then...not??? When he broke up with me he told me that he loved me, that I was perfect for him...yet....he did not see himself married right now (I have not pressured him in ANY way regarding marriage, he has accepted to this)....He has told the same story to his friends and relatives (yes, my mistake, I has spoken with them, I am not going to to that again). I made the mistake of calling him last week...First I was cool, but then I started to talk to him about what I had thought during our first week of being separated, I was probably very stubborn and got him mad, he became all irritated blah blah blah....we hang up, he calls me again, don't answer....calls another time....I answer and he apologizes for his behavior, he tells me that one of his relatives cried when he told her that we were no longer dating, but I tried not to dwell on the topic and talked about something else. We haven't spoken at all since (about 5 days). He went right now on vacation with friends (where I was supposed to be too) and I am stuck back home, horribly depressed, the weather sucks...I just cant seem to get this off off my head...It was great, and then over...no warning signs AT ALL, i don't believe there is another woman, at least not right now. why, why, why....everybody thought we were so right for each other, even me....he was so cute and nice to me, told me that he loved me countless occassions and how happy he was around me.....was this all a lie? I know he had commitment issues before me (im his second serious girlfriend after 4.5 years of being single)....but I know its just plain rude to introduce me into his life, his family and friends (I spent many many weekends with them) and then kicking me out just like that.... Please help...im overly anxious, cant sleep, i become very irritated so easily..I feel used (i did everything for him), alone.....I don't want to obsess about this, but I cant seem to find a "why" for all of this...it shook me off the ground so so bad...
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