PracticalShade Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Okay so my girlfriend at the time and i (both college students. I'm an senior she's a freshmen) were in a serious relationship for less than a year. We practically lived together, my family loved her her family loved me, etc.) Eventually it got to the point where she lied about some stuff, we fought a lot and what not. She and I broke up about a month ago, were still talking/fighting about it for two weeks after it which is when her best friend tried to set her up with this other guy two weeks after they were talking, she's with him now. It tore me up when I found out about it because we have a lot of the same friends. I came to the realization after we broke up that we were probably all wrong for each other and because of that, I'd be crazy to even want her back. But I can't stop thinking about her and even after she got with this new guy .. these feelings are lingering like really bad. I don't want her back but I can't stop thinking about the actually good times she and I DID have and I keep getting sad about her being with someone else and I don't think I should feel that way if we weren't right for each other to begin with! But I do.. and I don't know how to deal with it. It's gotten to the point where the only way I'm somewhat comfortable with things is if I avoid going to campus unless I absolutely need to. My friends say I'm not myself anymore... 1)How could a girl go from seriousness with one guy to, a month later, jumping into a relationship with somebody else? Is it that easy for some to jump ship like that and have no emotional qualms about it? If I cared about somebody it takes time before I'd be able to date again but uh.. that's just me... 2)Why do I still have these feelings if I know it was a bad situation?? I don't want to be hurting over this, especially if she so easily is beyond it. It feels like she wins because she's the one with a new relationship and I'm still doctoring my wounds over her...
silentcharon Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Believe me, nobody won. She probably is using the new guy, to get over you. I don't mean to be harsh, but that's the way it is. People who jump right into a new relationship after a LTR, they do it to get over their exes. And you know what? It hurts both of them in the long run, all because she got into it for the wrong reasons. I know because I've done it. I would bet you a pretty cent that she thinks of you. I mean, come on, she knows that she's trying to replace you with the new guy, so of course, she'll have some emotional qualms about it. Start living your life, and go out, have fun. Work on yourself. It's the only way you'll win, because by the time you're ready to date again, you'll be a whole person. Their relationship will end, and she'll come out of it twice broken, from both the break up of your relationship with her and her relationship with the new guy. Don't worry, you'll be fine
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