mental_traveller Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 I finished a 1 1/2 year relationship a couple of months ago, and just recently had started going on a couple of dates. Well, I was planning to just be fairly relaxed with dating etc, not looking for anything remotely serious, but from the moment I met up with this woman I was seriously tempted to change my mind. To keep things brief, things went amazingly well, she has model looks, porn star body, studying at a top 5 national university, and after 4 dates in the last week and some making out & naughty phone calls, it's apparent she is pretty much into me too. She's had one serious relationship before, and has been, quote, "celibate for the last year". Now either she is rather picky (her explanation) or the world's biggest liar - I'll assume the former for now. To top things off, we chatted today and she practically invited herself around to my place on Monday. So, I completely wasn't expecting this at all, I had planned to just have a few months of single fun, but women like this don't exactly grow on trees, so I decided ok go for her and see if it can become something serious. My concern here is how to avoid the common "coming on too strong" mistake that a lot of guys make when they are really into someone, whilst at the same time not jeapordising a potentially very cool relationship prospect by giving mixed signals or playing games too much. Part of me says just be yourself, the other part says be careful not to appear too keen or straightforward, keep some mystery etc. Normally it would not be an issue for me, but it's different dating someone you find a 10/10 in looks & personality, compared to a girl who is nice and attractive but not quite on the same level. It is much, much harder to be nonchalant and play things cool, compared to 99% of other women I might meet. So, any advice on how to handle things? Any of you guys been in a similar situation where it worked out well or badly, and if so what did you do and how well did it work? C'mon, I need a little help here
whichwayisup Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Just get to know her. Keep it low key and relaxed, try not to let it go too far sexually. She'll respect you for that! Sorry if I'm not much help...
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