panzer6 Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Hey guys, I had lunch with my ex the other day. It went very well, kept things lighthearted and easy going. She told me she was very stressed about her work situation. She will probably have to quit her job soon. I was shocked to see that she had lost 60 lbs !! She seems very stressed. Her boss walked out on his wife 2 weeks ago and his wife was blaming my ex for the breakup. Now her boss has gone back to his wife so my ex thinks that her days are numbered at her work. I told her that she should do whats best for her and her 2 sons. I have to admit it felt strange to see her. Alot of old feelings came flooding back and I kind of lost my appetite during the lunch. Why does she want me back in her life after she told me to never call her again? Nothing she does makes any sense to me. I still care about her very much but I feel it may be time to finally tell her to not call me anymore. It's hard for me to deal with all these feelings. Part of me still loves her very much, the other doesn't know what to think anymore. The reason she lost the weight is because she hardly eats anything because she is so stressed out. I told her it wasn't a healthy way of losing weight and that her health was important not only for her but for her boys. She agreed with me but I know she wont eat properly for a while to come. I'm worried about her, I have seen her upset before but never like this. Any way all this has been hard to endure what with my own confused feelings and all. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Trialbyfire Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 I think you've answered your own question about why she came back into your life. She's looking for someone to make her feel better. Time to make yourself unavailable. She appears to be a user.
Author panzer6 Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 Hey Trial, you are probably right. I don't like seeing her like this but, I gotta do whats best for me. She is going to have to learn to live with out me. She has been calling and texting me everyday since about 2 weeks ago. From nothing to everything in one fell swoop. We haven't slept together or anything like that, but I wouldn't be surprised if she asked me to come over. I have no intentions of sleeping with her. I am not a bandaid for her to pull out whenever she needs me. It hurts me to see her hurting but I need to keep things in perspective.
Trialbyfire Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 She's got some issues for certain. I went back on some of your threads and saw that she had an affair with the boss. Now that the gig is up with that one, she's back to you. Don't let her use you to make herself feel good. Step back, stop helping her. I know you care but you're the one who will ultimately get hurt. She doesn't appear to care about anyone but herself. NC this woman. Time to collect yourself, regain anything she's taken from you and find yourself someone who will appreciate you for the good guy that you are. Good luck.
Author panzer6 Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 I know you are right in saying that. I agree with everything. She had an affair with him but the wife doesn't know for sure. But she certainly suspects something. She stopped seeing him when I came along, and she had told me about it before we had started our relationship. I was never comfortable with the fact that she still worked with him but she swore to me that it meant nothing to her, it was just sex. Any way now she is feling the heat and SHAZAM!!! she is back in my life. Go figure! I guess she has had to learn some hard lessons lately. When she first told me about it I told her that it was a deadend and would lead only to grief, I warned her that she would pay dearly for what she had done. Lo and behold, 2 years later and it is exactly as I said it would be.
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