Chrome Barracuda Posted April 14, 2007 Posted April 14, 2007 This guy is an ass.hole there is no redeeming qualities about him. Do not waste your time. I dont think your pathetic just weak and needy right about now. Some girls want to fix men who cant be fixed. This guy is feeling somebody else. I'm sorry. pack your **** up and move on.
Guest Posted April 17, 2007 Posted April 17, 2007 Girl You Need To Leave That Man Alone.. He Is Just Stringing Your Butt Along For A Ride, If You Know That He Is In Love With This Chic You Are Setting Yourself Up To Get Hurt. Forget The Stages You Need To Confront Him On That Because No Matter What Stage That Is Kinda Disrespectful For Him To Even Be Talking To Her If He Say That He Cut Her Off. That Is Disaster Waiting To Happen Girl Be Careful.....
Author lightening Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 Hi all, how are you all? Just wanted to pop in, they are still going to meet up. He says he does not want to be with her but he really likes her as a friend, thats why he wants to meet her but he swears there is nothing in it he says he is not even tempted to trust him that he loves me. If he wanted to be with her he would be with her now, right?
melodymatters Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Sure, Ok, great ! And since they are just friends you will be part of this little reunion right ??? I've always had guy friends, but i always make sure my currrent partner meets them, we all hang out, so they can see that good ol Bob or whoever is NOT a threat to our relationship !
Author lightening Posted April 20, 2007 Author Posted April 20, 2007 Well in fairness I would have nothing in common with her, they met before he ever knew me, no doubt they are dying to catch up I would just be a hinderance not sure if I want to put a face to her name:o
Trialbyfire Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Well in fairness I would have nothing in common with her, they met before he ever knew me, no doubt they are dying to catch up I would just be a hinderance not sure if I want to put a face to her name:o You have two choices, one with a subchoice. You can either continue to let it fester and do nothing about it or you can take a stance with two subchoices. First one, shut him down now. Second one, tell him that you will be part of the meeting. Either get proactive or allow it to erode on your relationship, whether it's only unsubstantiated jealousy on your side or empowering him to cheat on you.
melodymatters Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Well, I really think you should meet her, for many reasons: 1) To let HER know your BF has a GF 2) if your BF is cool with it, it will kind of "prove" that it's all above board 3) you will be able to pick up vibes, see what she's all about. Know thine enemy Perhaps you could all meet for a drink, and then you could have " other things to do" and let them catch up then. I would not be ok with any of this, but I'm trying to be open minded
Author lightening Posted April 21, 2007 Author Posted April 21, 2007 Not really an option as he is meeting her half way its a two day reunion
sb129 Posted April 21, 2007 Posted April 21, 2007 Hi all, how are you all? Just wanted to pop in, they are still going to meet up. He says he does not want to be with her but he really likes her as a friend, thats why he wants to meet her but he swears there is nothing in it he says he is not even tempted to trust him that he loves me. If he wanted to be with her he would be with her now, right? Lightening. He is GOING to be with her, albeit for two days. He wanted to be with her one week before you got together. WTF? You REALLY are going to let this go ahead? You really believe that they will just be friends???? Honey WAKE UP. How can you, knowing that it will be "electric"?? Those kind of feeelings aren't just switched off in 3 months. He is a selfish MF. He wants to have his cake AND eat it too, he is in the very "best" position right now- he gets to go and spend "electric" time with his ex, while knowing that you are waiting for him when he gets back. Are you prepared to get dumped when he gets back if he realises he DOES want to be with her, and now he CAN because she left her H? Recently I met my BFs ex.. they broke up four years ago, and still share friends etc. We were passing thru the town she lives in, and we BOTH went to meet her and some of their old buddies for a drink. It was fine, and not awkward, and he thanked me afterwards for going with him, and told me how glad he his he has me and isn't with her anymore. Very different to your scenario, but can you see how yours is not OK?
Trialbyfire Posted April 21, 2007 Posted April 21, 2007 Not really an option as he is meeting her half way its a two day reunion Why isn't it an option? lightening, why don't you give us the whole story so that each time someone tries to help you with advice, they don't get shot down with new information? *edit - You know you want to keep this man therefore, don't want to do anything to threaten the existing relationship. The only problem is that the existing relationship doesn't make you happy. Make a decision. Do something or continue to be unhappy. It's your choice.
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