heartbroken323 Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 My wife says she loves me but is not "in love" with me and is willing to give us a month to see if she can feel that way for me again. She has suggested I see a counselor 4 times and than we will go to a marriage counselor 4 times. She currently see's a counselor already. If you've read any of my previous posts I am sure you can figure out that I am madly in love with my wife and don't want to lose her. She has become a very selfish person, and she admits that and says she likes being selfish. Knowing that, is there hope or do you think her selfishness will make it impossible? Does anyone have any ideas on how I can win her love back? I was going to do basic stuff like make her a CD, maybe a little scrap book, but I know that is not enough. If anyone has any ideas, please send them to me. She is my best friend and I know deep down she is my soul mate. Thank you!!
Guest Posted April 9, 2007 Posted April 9, 2007 She was at least honest and telling you there were problems. Did you go to counselling or did it take her saying this before you took it seriously? Start being proactive and get your ass to a C. Read books. And demand she put the same amount of effort into it. She needs to do her share of the work too.
faithfulgirlie Posted April 13, 2007 Posted April 13, 2007 From a woman's point of view i would tell you that, once she's already thinking that and she's making excuses for you to leave her. It's kind of hard. I was in the same boat as her. My husband was just patient with me and he let me do whatever and he made me cds and scrap books like you said. It was to the point where I thought if I ever leave him it would only be good for the moment and I would regret for the rest of my life. So I just live with him and try to work things out when I can. But the more he pull away the closer I pull us together. To me it was like a game, to see who has the guts to finally pull the plug. When it really came to it, I couldn't do it. We were together for seven years. I don't really know what else to give you. if she does end up leaving she is going to regret it fully.
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