confusedandempty Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Hey there - In few days, the time that has passed since we broke up will exceed the time that we actually dated. The relationship lasted for about 7 months. She was my first real love, so I guess that it's normal that it takes time to get over her. I've been on a strict NC since we broke up and I haven't spoken to her except this one time I met her in a club. Well, she seems to be on some kind of NC too, at least I haven't heard from her since breakup day. Well, all of this actually doesn't matter. Like I said, she doesn't affect my normal life anymore, but I sometimes start to think about her when I go clubbing. Like for an example last Friday I met a mutual friend of ours and he told me that he just met her few mintues ago in the club next to the one we were in. I just got this weird feeling in my stomach, and it kind of ruined my night. It's silly, I know. This leads us tonight. I got to know her through my best friend. They work together, actually so does 2 other friends of mine (I'm talking childhood friends here). Tonight they're having this celebration at work and afterwards they're all going clubbing and I'm almost certain that if I'll go and meet my best friends afterwards, I'll meet my ex. Which leads us to you guys. I'm relatively inexperienced. But I've been thinking that maybe it will just do me good to meet her. It might lift some pressure of my chest to have a nice talk. I just don't know as I haven't been in this position before. I know that I wasn't happy in this relationship and definetly that it wasn't gonna last for long. But after all, she was my first and that will always be special too me. So...the question is. Should I swallow my proud and simply go meet her tonight. There must be anyone who have been in this position who can tell if maybe will help. Any comments will be appreciated.
ringside Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 If it's just a matter of pride on your side, then I don't see why you shouldn't meet her. But if there's a fair chance meeting her might affect your normal life again, you should think really hard about whether or not it's worth it. Being friends is always a good notion; it's really sad when two people who used to be so close simply fade from each others' lives when the relationship ends. But there are ex-couples who can be friends and ex-couples who can't. If you think you have a shot at friendship with this girl, then give it a shot. I haven't exactly been through this myself; I had a phone conversation with my ex three weeks after we broke up and after that phone call, whatever progress I made towards healing was pretty much screwed up. I felt like I could never be friends with him because it was too difficult drawing all these boundaries between us when I was still in love with him. But my situation is obviously vastly different from yours so take from it what you will. All the best.
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