jmmm Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 i have a question sometimes you hear-oh they were bad in bad..what makes a person bad in bed??...dont in general you would get the same type of pleasure when have sex with someone?? I have not been with many people so im curious curious...and also..b/c of my lack of sexual experience i sometimes wonder if i am good in bed for my b/f and if he is really getting a lot of pleasure...one time he joked saying how was your dessert and i said good and i said you? and he said it was ok..and then i said just ok? and he changed his answer probably b/c i said just ok?..maybe he didnt mean anything by it b/c he didnt say it in a mean way. I am pretty open to sexual things..like anything he wants(positions etc), i think i am willing to try and he knows this. I mean he seems to "finish" each time but i have heard its how you get to that point that matters and not all the time is he moaning and stuff but then again, im not the "loudest" person either. So just wondering if i am being insecure..
DanielMadr Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 i have a question sometimes you hear-oh they were bad in bad..what makes a person bad in bed??...dont in general you would get the same type of pleasure when have sex with someone?? I have not been with many people so im curious curious...and also..b/c of my lack of sexual experience i sometimes wonder if i am good in bed for my b/f and if he is really getting a lot of pleasure...one time he joked saying how was your dessert and i said good and i said you? and he said it was ok..and then i said just ok? and he changed his answer probably b/c i said just ok?..maybe he didnt mean anything by it b/c he didnt say it in a mean way. I am pretty open to sexual things..like anything he wants(positions etc), i think i am willing to try and he knows this. I mean he seems to "finish" each time but i have heard its how you get to that point that matters and not all the time is he moaning and stuff but then again, im not the "loudest" person either. So just wondering if i am being insecure.. Just dont worry and enjoy the ride. That is the best thing you can do. Bad in bed usually means she was not reciprocating - lying like a plank of wood. Or when you scratch his back too much. If you are not sadist or frigid, you dont have to worry. Sure you can do better. Read some articles on 'How to give your man oral pleasure....'. Buy some sexy lingerie and take initiative time to time.....seduce him, tease him. Be his submissive servant demanding pleasure time to time etc. If it turns you on too of course. Find out what he likes most by asking during love making 'Does it feel good?'. Bare in mind our biggest sex organ is our brain. Speak to him during sex, compliment him etc. And most of all....relax and enjoy it. There is no bigger turn on than a girl really enjoying it.
Enema Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Too often, men do all the work in the bedroom. Being "willing to do whatever he wants" doesn't make you a good lover. Taking a very active role in how your lovemaking plays out from A-Z is the first step to becoming a good lover.
Yamaha Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Bad in bed usually means she was not reciprocating - lying like a plank of wood. So true.. I hate f*cking a piece of wood. It makes HER bad in bed.
portableversion Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 swallowing too will give you massive points most of the time
Author jmmm Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 what do you mean by taking an active part? you mean BJ's?
VinaAmez Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I'm saying if you get better thrills by yourself or it looks like your dog/pet is having a better time then you, then it's bad. BTW, it comes down to what individuals think is good/bad.
Guest Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 what do you mean by taking an active part? you mean BJ's? Taking an active role could means you participating and enjoying the sexual relationship. Make a move on him, don't wait for him to always make a move on your first. Tell him what you like and don't like. Instead of always doing what he wants, make a suggestion as to something YOU might want to try. And a big thing is to LET HIM KNOW when you are enjoying it by telling him.
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