Totoro Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 For those of you in serious Rs (or married): Is there anything that your spouse/SO does that causes you to worry? Like an activity or drugs or not taking care of him/herself? How do you deal with it? My boyfriend is involved in "extreme sports," and, being a big worrywart, it bothers me sometimes. But it is his *passion* and I could never ask him to give it up... I'll just have to learn to deal with it, I guess. But I'm interested to see if there are any similar stories... Thanks.
Ripples Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I dated a skydiver for a while, and I did worry a couple of times. The best way of dealing with it, for me, was although I knew there was no way he'd give it up, that everything he did was carefully and meticulously planned, nothing was left to chance. For instance, he carried a Cypres, never jumped a canopy that was smaller than his experience allowed, that sort of thing. I knew he had good life insurance too and had procedures in place in the case of accident/death. As you say, you won't stop him, but it helps if he's taking care of any eventualities and working hard at preventing them with adequate training, preparation and resources. Extreme sports are a very different scenario than taking drugs and really can't be compared. Apples and hedgehogs.
DanielMadr Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I knew he had good life insurance too and had procedures in place in the case of accident/death. I dont think insurance can help much with a twisted chute when plummeting to the ground in 120 km/hour. You are tomato sauce insurance or no insurance.
Ripples Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Skydiving fatalities are less likely than a skydiving injury. Life insurance pays out in case of death as well as debilitating injury. Oh, and it's 120 miles an hour, not kilometres an hour.
pelagicsands Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I dont think insurance can help much with a twisted chute when plummeting to the ground in 120 km/hour. You are tomato sauce insurance or no insurance. :lmao:
DanielMadr Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Skydiving fatalities are less likely than a skydiving injury. Life insurance pays out in case of death as well as debilitating injury. Oh, and it's 120 miles an hour, not kilometres an hour. Ah yeah sure miles. Even better:lmao: Do you jump yourself?
Author Totoro Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 I dont think insurance can help much with a twisted chute when plummeting to the ground in 120 km/hour. You are tomato sauce insurance or no insurance. Thanks, Daniel. That was most helpful.
DanielMadr Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Thanks, Daniel. That was most helpful. Look. At least you have man who is no pussy. You can tell him that he should drop it and be more responsible once you have kids. But honestly if he is no hot head, there is bigger chance to take an injury in a bath or car accident.
Author Totoro Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 Look. At least you have man who is no pussy. . True... Definitely true. Do you do extreme sports as well?
DanielMadr Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 True... Definitely true. Do you do extreme sports as well? I experienced a lot of adrenalin rush out of controled enviroment of extreme sports. Im happy to be alive and in one piece. Im happy for those experiences but dont seek for it. I cant say I do extreme sports. But its fine to jump from aeroplane time to time When you go through these things you appreciate life more I think. It certainly clears your list of priorities
Ripples Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Ah yeah sure miles. Even better:lmao: Do you jump yourself? Unfortunately I am only able to skydive tandem. I also fly, waterski and I used to sail.
whichwayisup Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 You make the most and best of your time together daily. I completely understand the fears of losing the one you love due to accidents or whatever...The thing is, you can't let those fears and negative feelings take over, it will make YOU feel worse and ruin the time you do have with him.
Author Totoro Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 You make the most and best of your time together daily. I completely understand the fears of losing the one you love due to accidents or whatever...The thing is, you can't let those fears and negative feelings take over, it will make YOU feel worse and ruin the time you do have with him. That's good advice. I can't help wondering if it's *really* about the extreme sports or if it's just general fear of losing him... Thanks for your comments too, Ripples.
Trialbyfire Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 I used to do a little extreme skiing with my ex but couldn't keep up to his pace or fearlessness. He also enjoyed rock climbing. So, whenever he went and did either of this, I would try to keep as busy as possible with friends, to keep my mind off it. Since he loved these so much, the last thought on my mind was to interfere. Apparently he had other adrenaline junkie issues...
Author Totoro Posted April 7, 2007 Author Posted April 7, 2007 Apparently he had other adrenaline junkie issues... Thanks for your response, TBF. If you don't mind my asking,what do you mean by this?
whichwayisup Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 That's good advice. I can't help wondering if it's *really* about the extreme sports or if it's just general fear of losing him... It's a general fear of losing him, and because of his interest in extreme sports, it makes worse.
Trialbyfire Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Thanks for your response, TBF. If you don't mind my asking,what do you mean by this? The typical loveshack thing. Married to a serial cheater. He enjoyed the adrenaline rush of the hunt and kill too much to give it up for something as consistent as monogamy. Please don't think that it's any reflection on what is happening with your guy. It's one of those cynical injection comments about the ex. I tend to do that.
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