corazoncito Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Well, good on you then. Whatever it takes to advance the cause of science...
jbmarine Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Well, good on you then. Whatever it takes to advance the cause of science... I laughed pretty hard at that comment. Beware of the husband...
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I'm not sure why people using people is funny. If anything, I'm waiting for this guy to come back in 6 months, whining about being the OM in an affair situation.
Herzen Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Yes, married women sometimes initiate affairs. That observation is unremarkable. On LS, it's the MM who bears the brunt of the rage (along with the unapologetic OW) because he's a liar, "cakeman", selfish, etc. The indictment runs on and on and on. The point is that the conventional wisdom on LS is anti-affair (often passionately so), not anti-male or anti-female.
puddleofmud Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 The majority of women in general hate their husbands and view it is just punishment for them to have an affair. I know women and this is how most of them feel. I AM a woman, and because I AM A WOMAN; know by nature, women-- intimately, those being family, friends, co-workers, as well as that I have SONS who "know" women: I vehemently disgree w/ this stated generalization. These ideas which you tend to possess may be a "majority" of women from YOUR limited and baseless life experience but do NOT respresent a majority of women in general nor any one whom I ever met! Seriously, did you poll the average married woman, which are in the millions, and find that they as a majority "hate their husbands"? OR that they/ we as a MAJORITY use affairs as "punishment"? Where is any AUTHENTIC recorded statisitical basis for your statement? Present that and perhaps your basis of statement would be more likely considered as genuine. In my opinion: This (yours) is a mere opinion, baseless assumption and ludicrous to say the least.... If you feel this way that's fine--you are allowed opinion but to state such is based on ALL or MOST or MAJORITY without factual proof is has no basis in reality; not to mention intellectually incorrect. Also, should YOU be allowed such generalizations about the female population than it is simply logical that you should also allow the female population to generalize with same basis of logic about MEN: As in ALL men are "this way or that way" simply because we say so... Halleluah, may the dike break.
woe_is_me Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 This experiment will continue and I'll let you know the outcome. Experiment!?? Outcome!?? Well that all sounds a little cold and clinical... And IF your story is indeed true you'd want to watch that YOU don't fall in love and it all doesn't come back to bite you on the behind! Here's hoping that you really are a MM because you're a good reminder of why most OW shouldn't bother wasting their time.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Anybody who has an affair is reponsible for that affair and I am not suprised she is willing to cheat. The majority of married women in general could care less about their husband and would cheat in a heartbeat and feel no guilt about it. Whoa Woggle, I don't know where you are meeting these married women. I understand that there are exceptions, but most every married woman that I know wouldn't cheat on their husbands and don't hate them at all. Most of them are completely immersed in trying to get and/or retain their H's attention. Actually women are "hardwired" for relationships. Hell, even the OW on this board won't cheat on their cheating MM.
stillhere Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I think this "experiment" is cruel and rediculous. Like someone else said, playing with anothers emotions is just not right. I think you better watch yourself. Not only is it crazy to "experiment" to see if this woman will have an A, but you also work with her. No one will believe this is an experiment when the rumors fly, and she may just slap you with a sexual harrasment charge. Maybe you should think twice before continuing!!
whichwayisup Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 The OP has some real odd threads, this one included. Do a search on some of his past threads.... Remember D, what goes around, comes around - Just when it hits ya, it's usually alot harder than what you give out. Karma's a real bitch that way.
puddleofmud Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I find this (if even true) sick, repulsive, irresponsible, disrespectful, cruel, manipulative, controlling, egotistical, dominist, pathetic behavior. How dare one USE another simply to make a point? It does not and should not ever matter the nature of another: USING is just USING, plain and simple and the "user" becomes no better than the one which they set up and/or plan to use. Does one think that because one is of a perceived "lesser nature" (in this case, morally) that one has the right to abuse/ deceive them? It would seem that the argument is that one has "jokingly" yet manipulatively set someone up--someone whom they have perceived as "deserved" of this kind of set up, being perhaps physically attractive and so called "HOT" or one of morals which is found personally incorrect. And more "deservedly" so said "hot" person gave nothing but an email address and agreed to have coffee? And said manipulator sees this or is awaiting signs of a sexual engagement? And said manipulator uses this kind of manipulative abuse to make a point about how this person they are using is the "slut dejour"???? I would turn the table. Perhaps this woman may be of questionalbe moral "standard" but does that make the standard of morality just to get what one wants by any means neccessary: as in LYING, DECIEVING, MANIPULATING, OR ANY FALSE PRETENSE???????? Two wrongs don't make a right it just makes two wrongs. Give it up, friend, as your moral compass is skewed and your behavior has fallen in the dark pit of ill disrepute. One is no more morally superior/ supreme to another when one does such. So nice of you to morally stop short of actually screwing someone after screwing their head.... I have read alot of posts about married women and men in an affair but who to blame to? I can't represent the men but I can at least share part of my story with you :- Few days I ago, I tried to hook up with a married woman who was working in the same company. I honestly didn't want to have an affair with her but to see if a married woman could be seduced. It all started with small talk which led us to a long discussion on general topics. I finally asked her email number..which she didn't hesitate to ask why... while I was also giving her my email. Her husband's best friend who also works with us was there - she started look at his office while I was giving her my email number! The next morning, I was at the company's coffee shop having a coffee and as soon as she saw me... she had a big smile and she sat next to me - She was very comfortable !!. I did stop though.. cause I didn't want ruin her marriage. My point is that MEN are not the only ones who initiate " AFFAIR"
whichwayisup Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I think just about ANYBODY can be seduced to a point, depending on their frame of minds, and what's going on in their life PERIOD. Ever hear of those stories, people getting taken advantage of after a close one dies? Then has their whole $$ account drained and cleaned out? Or after a divorce, someone swoops in and tries to take advantage? Noone is perfect. So, your little game is being done on purpose 'just so you can see' what happens?? Karma man.......One day someone is gonna fuucck with your life in a bad way and you're gonna regret messing in someone else's life for kicks. Have a good sleep tonight! Be sure to look yourself in the mirror too.
Storyrider Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 The OP has some real odd threads, this one included. Do a search on some of his past threads..... Agreed. Every week this guy has a new woman who wants him.
whichwayisup Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Remember, masterbation causes women to become lesbians..Or something like that...I can't remember exactly what a past thread said about about that one. Might have been women masterbating causes them to cheat. I dunno!
Storyrider Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 The one that sticks in my mind is how do you recognize a lesbian, b/c I put my foot in my mouth on that thread and so did someone else, for a little bovine comment.
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 But...but...I though masturbation made you go blind. Based on that logic, you first go blind, then become a lesbian because you can't see who you're making it with? :confused:
puddleofmud Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Remember, masterbation causes women to become lesbians..Or something like that...I can't remember exactly what a past thread said about about that one. Might have been women masterbating causes them to cheat. I dunno! Yes! Exactly: there have been 552 scientific studies done from the University of Nevermore Dreamland which support that 87 per cent of all women between that ages of 21 and 61 whom masturbate at least once a week become more attracted to females! And 90 percent of those wish to cheat on their partners! And 99 percent have been to Disney Land in the past year...then became blind within a few months. All those who came out as lesbians got a free toaster in the mail simply by subscribing to "I am a Lesbian now dot com". What do those of us do now? Obviously we are going to Disney Land and awaiting our free toasters?
stillhere Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Yes! Exactly: there have been 552 scientific studies done from the University of Nevermore Dreamland which support that 87 per cent of all women between that ages of 21 and 61 whom masturbate at least once a week become more attracted to females! And 90 percent of those wish to cheat on their partners! And 99 percent have been to Disney Land in the past year...then became blind within a few months. All those who came out as lesbians got a free toaster in the mail simply by subscribing to "I am a Lesbian now dot com". What do those of us do now? Obviously we are going to Disney Land and awaiting our free toasters? OMG POM!!! :lmao: I haven't been to Disneyland in about 14 years!! I masterbate at least once a day, and holy smokes, i should be jumping every single woman that looks at me!!! Apparently i'm in that 13% that don't like women!! Lucky me!!
corazoncito Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I'm not sure why people using people is funny. If anything, I'm waiting for this guy to come back in 6 months, whining about being the OM in an affair situation. I just wanted to say that I don't think using people is funny. I didn't mean to sound insensitive by cracking a joke earlier. It's just that this story sounds bizarre to me, and probably completely one-sided. I don't think there's any danger of him getting involved in an A with this woman. If this story isn't complete fiction, all that happened is that they exchanged emails (seems normal for people who work in the same office) and then he asked her for coffee. The fact that at that point she felt compelled to ask him "why?" speaks volumes. I don't know about you, but when I guy I'm attracted to asks me out, I don't ask him why. Even if he did say "I like you...YOU KNOW", her acceptance could easily have just been a vague "oh, yeah. Sure. Let's do that...someday" to brush him off. Maybe when she glanced at her husband's office it was in the hopes he might happen to come out at that moment and give her a good excuse to extricate herself. He did say she never actually took him up on the offer...
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I just wanted to say that I don't think using people is funny. I didn't mean to sound insensitive by cracking a joke earlier. It's just that this story sounds bizarre to me, and probably completely one-sided. I don't think there's any danger of him getting involved in an A with this woman. If this story isn't complete fiction, all that happened is that they exchanged emails (seems normal for people who work in the same office) and then he asked her for coffee. The fact that at that point she felt compelled to ask him "why?" speaks volumes. I don't know about you, but when I guy I'm attracted to asks me out, I don't ask him why. Even if he did say "I like you...YOU KNOW", her acceptance could easily have just been a vague "oh, yeah. Sure. Let's do that...someday" to brush him off. Maybe when she glanced at her husband's office it was in the hopes he might happen to come out at that moment and give her a good excuse to extricate herself. He did say she never actually took him up on the offer... Understood. You were being sarcastic which doesn't always communicate through text. I use it a lot too.
Babybird Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 I think part of his point is that the MM are usually portrayed as these horny, sex obsessed jerks that are shallow and narcissistic, and the women,in a round about way, are like the victim. Falling for his lines and succumbing to his charms. I'm not saying this is always the case because some do pursue the MM but there are a lot of women that fall for the guy and then find out he's married. In this particular case I think he's reading way too much into this. Because a women is friendly and enjoys coffee and conversation with another man doesn't mean an A in inevitable. (Although, it can very easily turn into an attraction and a situation where both people can be tempted.) And HE initiated things. He asked for her e-mail not the other way around. If she would've asked it would be different.
puddleofmud Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Yeah, but as well all know and scientific studies support--coffee is the agent that makes women so horny they entirely forget their husbands! The more coffee a woman drinks the looser the lady! Who needs booze with a Capi or Latte? Of course she is serious about him! One email address and bit of coffee, her husband/ friend in the next office, as we all know = SEX.... I'd give it up for coffee any time, any day! Coffee always makes my stockings slide off.... Point well taken, as in there is no danger of said poster EVER getting involved with said "mark". Again, SHOULD THIS HAVE REALLY HAPPENED: She probably smiled sweetly while wondering how long she had to sit and listen to him? I just wanted to say that I don't think using people is funny. I didn't mean to sound insensitive by cracking a joke earlier. It's just that this story sounds bizarre to me, and probably completely one-sided. I don't think there's any danger of him getting involved in an A with this woman. If this story isn't complete fiction, all that happened is that they exchanged emails (seems normal for people who work in the same office) and then he asked her for coffee. The fact that at that point she felt compelled to ask him "why?" speaks volumes. I don't know about you, but when I guy I'm attracted to asks me out, I don't ask him why. Even if he did say "I like you...YOU KNOW", her acceptance could easily have just been a vague "oh, yeah. Sure. Let's do that...someday" to brush him off. Maybe when she glanced at her husband's office it was in the hopes he might happen to come out at that moment and give her a good excuse to extricate herself. He did say she never actually took him up on the offer...
GreenEyedLady Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 If you work for the same company, wouldn't her email address be in your address book already?! Then so what if she gave it to you, you already had it...
jbmarine Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 Yeah, but as well all know and scientific studies support--coffee is the agent that makes women so horny they entirely forget their husbands! The more coffee a woman drinks the looser the lady! Who needs booze with a Capi or Latte? Of course she is serious about him! One email address and bit of coffee, her husband/ friend in the next office, as we all know = SEX.... I'd give it up for coffee any time, any day! Coffee always makes my stockings slide off.... So, um, what flavor of coffee should I be getting you? J/K Actually, from reading through his other threads, this guy sorta seems like a tool. In other news, I'm really depressed that I had to put my dog down today. Has anyone else experienced this pain?
Salicious Crumb Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 My point is that MEN are not the only ones who initiate " AFFAIR" That is true, but your point wasn't made by your story since YOU were the one that initiated it.
whichwayisup Posted April 7, 2007 Posted April 7, 2007 I am sorry for the loss of your dog...Yes, I've experienced that type of pain. It's just awful. Please, seriously, start a thread about it in the coping section and I'll post more there.
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