Dadaal Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I have read alot of posts about married women and men in an affair but who to blame to? I can't represent the men but I can at least share part of my story with you :- Few days I ago, I tried to hook up with a married woman who was working in the same company. I honestly didn't want to have an affair with her but to see if a married woman could be seduced. It all started with small talk which led us to a long discussion on general topics. I finally asked her email number..which she didn't hesitate to ask why... while I was also giving her my email. Her husband's best friend who also works with us was there - she started look at his office while I was giving her my email number! The next morning, I was at the company's coffee shop having a coffee and as soon as she saw me... she had a big smile and she sat next to me - She was very comfortable !!. I did stop though.. cause I didn't want ruin her marriage. My point is that MEN are not the only ones who initiate " AFFAIR"
outofdarkness Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I have read alot of posts about married women and men in an affair but who to blame to? I can't represent the men but I can at least share part of my story with you :- Few days I ago, I tried to hook up with a married woman who was working in the same company. I honestly didn't want to have an affair with her but to see if a married woman could be seduced. It all started with small talk which led us to a long discussion on general topics. I finally asked her email number..which she didn't hesitate to ask why... while I was also giving her my email. Her husband's best friend who also works with us was there - she started look at his office while I was giving her my email number! The next morning, I was at the company's coffee shop having a coffee and as soon as she saw me... she had a big smile and she sat next to me - She was very comfortable !!. I did stop though.. cause I didn't want ruin her marriage. My point is that MEN are not the only ones who initiate " AFFAIR" ohhh those d--- coffee shops!! to know what I am talking about see my thread about cell phone discovery...and then I'll say to everyone; "told ya"...
Kenzo Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 We should all stay far far away from the coffe shops!!!
jbmarine Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 these coffee shops you speak of... It's pretty easy to pick up the milfs there, right? J/K I actually haven't really seen any validity to the rumors myself, though I don't ever really drink my coffee there. I wonder what it is?
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I'm kinda' confused. Both married genders do initiate affairs. Did you get the feeling that only one gender pursues?
outofdarkness Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 We should all stay far far away from the coffe shops!!! r u being serious? I don't think coffee shops are "bad" Just that for a time there, they were sort of the "in" place to take an OW...and have privacy and not "be seen" by people you know...This faze has passed somewhat; although the main coffee house is still around and thriving...I've never hung around one of these to really have an informed OP on it, but I DO know that many people go alone or in twos...same sex, and one thing leads to another and boom, you've got a phone # and a potential A..Of course, this can happen anywhere, but the coffee houses seem to be a breeding ground for this due to the atmosphere...IE;, quiet, free wi fi, single tables, etc...It's relaxed and people that go there feel relaxed and more confident b/c everyone ELSE is so...NOT against coffee houses...JUST know that they are a popular place to meet and greet...Sort of like the 70's discos...Anyone remember that. I was only a preteen but still watched Sat. nite fever, etc... P.S..Our daughter who is almost 16 loves to go to the well known one and just hang w/ her friends...I feel better about her hanging out there then a bar!!!
Author Dadaal Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 r u being serious? I don't think coffee shops are "bad" Just that for a time there, they were sort of the "in" place to take an OW...and have privacy and not "be seen" by people you know...This faze has passed somewhat; although the main coffee house is still around and thriving...I've never hung around one of these to really have an informed OP on it, but I DO know that many people go alone or in twos...same sex, and one thing leads to another and boom, you've got a phone # and a potential A..Of course, this can happen anywhere, but the coffee houses seem to be a breeding ground for this due to the atmosphere...IE;, quiet, free wi fi, single tables, etc...It's relaxed and people that go there feel relaxed and more confident b/c everyone ELSE is so...NOT against coffee houses...JUST know that they are a popular place to meet and greet...Sort of like the 70's discos...Anyone remember that. I was only a preteen but still watched Sat. nite fever, etc... P.S..Our daughter who is almost 16 loves to go to the well known one and just hang w/ her friends...I feel better about her hanging out there then a bar!!! That's what talking about
Kenzo Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 r u being serious? I don't think coffee shops are "bad" Just that for a time there, they were sort of the "in" place to take an OW...and have privacy and not "be seen" by people you know... Actually only half serious, after reading the "cell phone" thread. But also WE have spent many hours talking, over many many lattes, so it was a bit of a tongue in cheek statement. I also met a previous boyfriend at local hip little coffee house, he was single, but crazy none-the-less...
IfWishesWereHorses Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I honestly didn't want to have an affair with her but to see if a married woman could be seduced. My point is that MEN are not the only ones who initiate " AFFAIR" You admit that you initiated it to see if YOU could seduce a married woman. So YOU succeeded. Then you say that SHE initiated it. Hmmm... Maybe she needed that ego boost as well as you!
Author Dadaal Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 Ifwisheswerehorses .. you misconstrued my point. I did start the whole idea but neither she refrained from herself. If she was so serious in her relationship, she would have said BIG NO in the first place.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Oh, but she hasn't crossed any lines other than possibly sending some covert messages that she might be interested. She hasn't agreed to anything but the chase. YOU initiated it, she might just be seeing how far y ou will take it before you get the NO, o r maybe she's all up for it. Only one way to find out for sure.
Author Dadaal Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 Oh, but she hasn't crossed any lines other than possibly sending some covert messages that she might be interested. She hasn't agreed to anything but the chase. YOU initiated it, she might just be seeing how far y ou will take it before you get the NO, o r maybe she's all up for it. Only one way to find out for sure. Men are not responsible for Women's affairs..it is up to them to defend themselves from somebody like me. If I was so serious, man.. I could take her right away. All the signs were there that she was ready for anything.
bridget_jones Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Sorry, I'm not convinced. Maybe she just gave you her email because as an email friend. Also...so she was friendly back with you in the coffee shop. She still didn't indicate she wanted an affair with you. Sorry dude...gotta say get over yourself in this case.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I don't believe that men or responsible for women's affairs. You started it though and seemed surprised that she bit. Let me ask you this, how many married women in your office wouldn't you approach, and for the hell of it, lets assume that they are all equally as attractive. Why this one, did you have a clue it would be easy before you tried?
Author Dadaal Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 There are few attractive women in our company but I did select this woman particularly because of her charecters. She's VERY pretty, educated and intelligent. Everybody in the office considers her HOT.. First, I thought it won't work and I pushed myself to find out if such woman could cheat on her husband. Before she gave me her email..I asked her if she would want to go out for a coffee sometimes after work. She did ask me why? And I said ..well...I like you YOU KNOW. She accepted my invitation ..but didn't continue...
Woggle Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Anybody who has an affair is reponsible for that affair and I am not suprised she is willing to cheat. The majority of married women in general could care less about their husband and would cheat in a heartbeat and feel no guilt about it.
bullhunter Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 The majority of married women in general could care less about their husband and would cheat in a heartbeat and feel no guilt about it. Whoa, where'd you get that from? Some sure, but the majority? I don't think the majority of married people of either gender would "cheat in a heartbeat and feel no guilt". Even subtracting the "and feel no guilt" phrase I think you are pretty far off base.
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 There are few attractive women in our company but I did select this woman particularly because of her charecters. She's VERY pretty, educated and intelligent. Everybody in the office considers her HOT.. First, I thought it won't work and I pushed myself to find out if such woman could cheat on her husband. Before she gave me her email..I asked her if she would want to go out for a coffee sometimes after work. She did ask me why? And I said ..well...I like you YOU KNOW. She accepted my invitation ..but didn't continue... Before judging this woman, think about what you did. Do you think it was admirable?
corazoncito Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 TI asked her if she would want to go out for a coffee sometimes after work. She did ask me why? And I said ..well...I like you YOU KNOW. This whole story is weird. It makes you both sound like you're in junior high. I don't understand why you even talked to her or gave her your email "number" to begin with. Is "experimentally" seducing your co-workers part of your job description? Did she actually meet you for coffee after work?
Woggle Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Whoa, where'd you get that from? Some sure, but the majority? I don't think the majority of married people of either gender would "cheat in a heartbeat and feel no guilt". Even subtracting the "and feel no guilt" phrase I think you are pretty far off base. The majority of women in general hate their husbands and view it is just punishment for them to have an affair. I know women and this is how most of them feel.
whichwayisup Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Woggle, you're completely generalizing again. The women you're talking about are the ones you've had bad experiences with. There are thousands and thousands of wonderful and loving women (and MEN too!) out there. Please, stop speaking for all women...k.
Author Dadaal Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 Before judging this woman, think about what you did. Do you think it was admirable? Basically, the idea was to see if such woman could fall for that thing. Believe me .. My plan wasn't to engage in any affair but to see how she'd react. This experiment will continue and I'll let you know the outcome.
Trialbyfire Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Basically, the idea was to see if such woman could fall for that thing. Believe me .. My plan wasn't to engage in any affair but to see how she'd react. This experiment will continue and I'll let you know the outcome. Playing with someone else's emotions is not an admirable thing to do. Let it go or you may find yourself in something that you can't control.
Author Dadaal Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 This whole story is weird. It makes you both sound like you're in junior high. I don't understand why you even talked to her or gave her your email "number" to begin with. Is "experimentally" seducing your co-workers part of your job description? Did she actually meet you for coffee after work? Nothing sounds wierd here and we aren't in junior high. It was ANY OTHER additional tasks...NO.. Its my own experiment and it'll continue..
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