LoveLace Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I've met a new guy online, and we've talked on the phone a couple times, and he is very nice, funny, smart, etc...we talked on Monday and he wanted to meet me that same day, but I couldn't so I suggested another day. We agreed to do something Thursday, which is today, but he hasn't called yet...it's around lunch time. How much more time should I give him before making other plans, and should I call him if I don't hear from him by the end of the work day?
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Is this the same guy that had his computer break while chatting with you ? Did you set up a time for today ? generally if a time isn't set then the date isn't really setup.
Author LoveLace Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 Is this the same guy that had his computer break while chatting with you ? Did you set up a time for today ? generally if a time isn't set then the date is really setup. Same guy artcritic. He said he has school until 7pm tonight but he said that's not too late to go out. He seemd gung ho, anyway then he said he would call me or email, but he hasn't done either. He has to have my # this time so no excuses there! But I'd really like to know by the time I leave work, so I don't know if I should just call him or what...if he waits until 7 to call is that acceptable?
oyster Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 wait till 7pm and if no response he is a loser not worth pursuing
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 if he waits until 7 to call is that acceptable? It would NOT be for me but it really is about what you feel is acceptable.. If a girl waited until an hour before the date to make it final then I would look elsewhere.. just as most girls would do in your case.. He seems way to vague to be someone that you can count on.. I don't want to poo poo this guy before you go out.. but it seems that he is not a good catch.. But then again.. if you feel that his timing works into your schedule then run with it and enjoy yourself.
Author LoveLace Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 I don't think I mind waiting until 7pm, but after that I'll be doing something else. I know how it feels to work and have school at night, too, so I understand if he just can't call me till then. In my eyes, it was final since we agreed on the day and approximate time...and since he said he will call...but hey, everyone has a different opinion there I guess... I'm tempted to call him myself today but I guess I'll refrain...it's 1:30!!
chaos40 Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Maybe you should give him your email address or, some other way of contacting you online via the computer. His phone may be dead. hope this helps
Author LoveLace Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 Well we've chatted on yahoo so he should know my email is the same as my user name on there? That's really the only way I have to be contacted online, anyway...unless he knows I'm here!! he he he... good thinking though.
chaos40 Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I always try to help when ever I can. Nice to meet you and I hope he calls. If not, you could always give me your number. I'm a real nobody so I'll call anybody
Author LoveLace Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 I always try to help when ever I can. Nice to meet you and I hope he calls. If not, you could always give me your number. I'm a real nobody so I'll call anybody nice to meet you too, thanks for chuckle cuz I needed it! I am already frustrated that he hasn't called yet, although I won't let it show if he calls later. I'm frustrated that I'm 30 and can't find a boyfriend because this is the kind of BS that happens to me. Ditched by a guy who asked ME out and has never even met me before? I don't understand it!! I'm perfectly attractive, etc, the guy has only talked to me the phone twice and wanted to meet me the 2nd time, saw my pic, etc., but somehow manages to forget about me? I have a roommate living out his bachelorhood and wants every girl but me, his new hot GF is over almost every night, my GFs are all happily married with beautiful children, etc...and here I am sad cuz I can't even get 1 date going much less a husband. I hate days like this!
chaos40 Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 nice to meet you too, thanks for chuckle cuz I needed it! I am already frustrated that he hasn't called yet, although I won't let it show if he calls later. I'm frustrated that I'm 30 and can't find a boyfriend because this is the kind of BS that happens to me. Ditched by a guy who asked ME out and has never even met me before? I don't understand it!! I'm perfectly attractive, etc, the guy has only talked to me the phone twice and wanted to meet me the 2nd time, saw my pic, etc., but somehow manages to forget about me? I have a roommate living out his bachelorhood and wants every girl but me, his new hot GF is over almost every night, my GFs are all happily married with beautiful children, etc...and here I am sad cuz I can't even get 1 date going much less a husband. I hate days like this! Look at the bright side sweetheart... you're NOT me! Every cloud has a silver lining
Author LoveLace Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 I know there are way worse problems than me not having a husband. I feel silly that I get so upset over such a dumb thing, really. I guess it's not so dumb to me though. Are you talking about wife's affair with Ronald McDonald?
mental_traveller Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 It depends if you arranged a place/time to meet. I would wait but if he hasn't called by 7 then forget it. If he calls between 5 and 7 then tease him a bit about his tardiness but meet up and see how it goes. Do NOT call him. He has your number, your email, and he knows you are expecting to meet this evening. If he can't even be bothered to call you and cancel, rearrange, or confirm by that time, then he is clearly not interested. You also mentioned your looks etc. Look, listen carefully here ok? Your looks are *irrelevant*. Your eligibility doesn't mean diddly squat. Either someone fancies you and is single, or not. This guy might like your looks but have an ex who he is still pining for. He might be trying to work out if he's gay or not. He might have ED and his latest viagra prescription has not arrived. The fact that you are stressing out about a guy you haven't even gone on a date with yet is a BAD SIGN. Get some self-esteem girl! Seriously - who cares if he calls or not? If he calls then it's cool and you were just stressing. If he doesn't, then he's impolite and not into you. At least you will find out today, unlike some women who find out after 5 or 20 years of marriage! Dating is pot-luck, you will meet lots of people who aren't into you, who give off mixed signals, or are just jerks. The #1 rule of dating is do not take anything personally until someone has shown they are really into you. This guy is like 3-6 months from even being eligible to register on your emotional radar. Stop fretting and just wait 6 hours until you will know one way or the other!
Author LoveLace Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 I understand MT I just figured I'd get insight about it from the dudes on here!! If he doesn't call...it won't matter, I'll already be getting ready to go out and meet new guys. Meet lots of people not into me, mixed signals, etc...story of my life!!! That's why I get upset everytime this happens! Because it ALWAYS happens...for no reason!!! I haven't even talked to him since he asked me out so it's not possible that I did anything wrong...I know this...but it makes upset with dating in general, not so much the guy himself... I'm usually good about backing off when I feel I should, etc...I don't anything wrong but still manage to get kicked to the curb...weather I sleep with them, or don't sleep with them...I've proven the myth wrong that not sleeping with them too soon will make them respect you more... B.S.!!! All prolonging sex does is prolong his ditching me!! I swear I'll be ok!!
jadedhalo Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Yes, and it's tearing me apart Just remember. Good things come to those who wait.....or in this case go on a diet from fast food. Quit putting yourself down! Get up, dust yourself off, and go out there and do what you know is right. You ARE somebody. You just have to know how to put yourself into action. We are here for you! Go get 'em tiger!
jadedhalo Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I understand MT I just figured I'd get insight about it from the dudes on here!! If he doesn't call...it won't matter, I'll already be getting ready to go out and meet new guys. Meet lots of people not into me, mixed signals, etc...story of my life!!! That's why I get upset everytime this happens! Because it ALWAYS happens...for no reason!!! I haven't even talked to him since he asked me out so it's not possible that I did anything wrong...I know this...but it makes upset with dating in general, not so much the guy himself... I'm usually good about backing off when I feel I should, etc...I don't anything wrong but still manage to get kicked to the curb...weather I sleep with them, or don't sleep with them...I've proven the myth wrong that not sleeping with them too soon will make them respect you more... B.S.!!! All prolonging sex does is prolong his ditching me!! I swear I'll be ok!! Honey!!! I wouldn't call him for love nor money! Men are a dime a dozen. Let him wait it out! He may be testing you to see if you are going to be one of those that calls and says hey remember me fifty thousand times. Let him you know you are not, and I am sure you will get the results you are after.
Author LoveLace Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 yea the test thing crossed my mind...but we're supposed to go out in about 2 1/2 hrs...I should have passed the test by now!!
mental_traveller Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Edit - just saw your other thread. Oh well, at least you can write him off without having to wait months or years to find out he's a jerk!
Author LoveLace Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 Edit - just saw your other thread. Oh well, at least you can write him off without having to wait months or years to find out he's a jerk! WORD!!! Thanks!!
Author LoveLace Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 did he ever call? Nope!! Oh well we've only talked on the phone a couple times, never even met in person, so yea I'm a little pssd off but only cuz this is like a usual thing for me...not because I wanted him so badly or something...ya know!! But I'm totally fine I had a great time with my girl friend last night so I'm in a good mood today.
ack123 Posted April 10, 2007 Posted April 10, 2007 I know how you feel,..had something similiar,..only worse,..met my guy online,..hes 42,...never married,..etc. we went out five or six times, had a great time,..really liked each other...made plans one night for the next night, but didnt set a time...well, by 5pm he hadnt called,...I called him left a messege,...if he still wanted to go out, to let me know,..he called back at 6:30, stating he wanted to go out,..I told him I didnt feel comfortable, after he had waited this late,..right then he said,..well ,... we will leave it at that..aka we wont see each other anymore...said I rejected him!!! lots of weirdos out there that look normal........ be careful...ack123..
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