rckt365 Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 For some reason ? I'm having trouble forgetting/moving-on from a relationship with a girl who I've allowed to affect me and my life in a toxic way. Before I'd met/dated her, I saw the world in a pretty positive light. Seeing a funny commercial on tv, or listening to a song on the radio, or meeting people - made me laugh, smile, and see all the good there is. But - now, after meeting/dating/getting to know her the world has become a dark, sad, lonely, directionless, cesspool of sex and substance abuse ... I get the whole "you can do better" thing, I know that (deep down anyway)! I know that involving myself with someone who was so mixed up (for ex. she smokes pot a lot, does mushrooms, has done exstacy, regularily goes out just to get 'hammered', while working at her last place of employment (6yrs) she'd slept with 7 or 8 of the guys there, she lies ... it goes on and on). Yet somehow, I could and can still see the good in her (deep-down she really was/is a sweetheart, caring ... and we were definitely kindred spirits/'connected')?! So how do I go about seeing the good in the rest of the world again ? Will I ever be able to ?
stace79 Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 She has to be gone from your life completely, I think. No IMs, no texts, no phone calls, no visits, throw away anything you have that reminds you of her. I'm in a similar situation with someone who totally dragged down my entire mental attitude and stability...removing him completely is allowing me to remember (at least, slowly) all the things I used to look forward to and love doing as a SINGLE person. You can and will get better....maybe seeing a therapist would help? To have an objective, unbiased listener to help you sort through these thoughts?
Double D Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 I am exactly the same. Last two girlfriends have really brought me down mentally anyway. The simple things like laughing I hardly do and seem to not smile as much as I used to. At the moment what I am trying to do is improve myself and bring a little more love back into the world and like good old Earl in My Name is Ear l- Karma usually swings and roundabouts.
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