manders0724 Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Okay so those of you who were following my "should he stop talkin to her" post will know what im talkin about. My bf calls me tonight while hes at work to tell me that his ex gf called him to get advice on computer stuff (my bf knows alot about computers) and he answered and talked for like 15 minutes. Heres the thing...he called and told me. So he thinks it should be okay cuz he isnt hiding it from me. BUT ITS NOT OKAY TO ME! Does he not care that it hurts me? I feel like by him telling me that no mattter what i think he will keep talking to her cuz he says there is nothin for me to worry about he doesnt like her etc. BUT I CARE ABOUT IT. I HAVE TOLD HIM I DONT LIKE IT, THAT IT HURTS ME ETC. WHY WOULD HE KEEP TALKIN TO HER KNOWING HOW MUCH IT HURTS ME? IM GOING TO GO CRAZY I NEED ADVICE CUZ IM SO PISSED OFF RIGHT NOW
Author manders0724 Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 So... I just told him he has to choose. Me or her. He is at work right now so im going to wait a while and call him back. I hate to do this. But i know its something I have to do. For the sake of my happiness. If you dont understand what im talking about, look back about 2 or 3 pages to the thread titled "should he stop talking to her?" And you will understand. I need support or something because this is the hardest thing Ive ever had to do. I love him so much and I am hoping with all my heart he will choose me. If he doesnt I am screwed. Ahhh...someone help please!
bridget_jones Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 This guy is making you unhappy, whether he's cheating or not. Release yourself from the pain. You guys are not compatible - why be in a relationship which causes you constant pain and anxiety all the time?
Author manders0724 Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 ignore all of this i think i was having an anxiety attack or something. ive been really stressed out lately. However, he promised me he will no longer be talking to her. If he does, it will be time for me to leave pleease dont reply to this
Nocturnal Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 My ex once said "If you ever tell me to never be able to talk to one of my exes, I'll break up with you" -- because she saw a lot of her exes as great friends and she would never let herself be forced to stop talking to a friend. Luckily for both of us, having contact with exes never bothered me. And I never really understood why it bothers other people, are you so insecure in your relationship that his ex is such a threat? That's certainly unfortunate if so.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Keep your eyes open. There's a good chance he'll simply take it underground.
DanielMadr Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 And I never really understood why it bothers other people, are you so insecure in your relationship that his ex is such a threat? That's certainly unfortunate if so. That is a good point. But I would reconsider my feelings to someone giving me ultimatums and actualy accusing me of some potentional future misbehave. That "If you ever tell me to never be able to talk to one of my exes, I'll break up with you" would be reason to break up with her immediately. It tells something about her prirorities ands its plain rude, selfish and controlling.
Shadowdog36 Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Daniel...Exactly my point in my post...just not so many words. It's apparent who wears the pants in that relationship. Man, do I feel sorry for him.
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