bg1975 Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 Is this the new thing....break up over text after seeing each other for 8 months!!!! And how do you do it after talking about each other's day? "I don think we should talk anymore" then don't respond to another text or call?????? Argggggg! Link to post Share on other sites
Dubb Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 That person did you a favor. Breaking up with someone over tex shows they lack the most important trait a person should have. CHARACTER! You can do better trust me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bg1975 Posted April 5, 2007 Author Share Posted April 5, 2007 oh, I know! Just find it amazing that you spend that much time with someone and then just a text.....too funny to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Dubb Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 Yeah it sux. People are so weak now a days. Just know it's their issues and not your's that caused it. I am sorry this had to happen to you but I think this might be one of those blessings in disguise. If I were you I would drop of the face of the earth. Go NC and stay with it. Link to post Share on other sites
TYASAFAHICSI Posted April 5, 2007 Share Posted April 5, 2007 Technology is to blame here. It used to be it HAD to be face to face, now it is so easy to get in touch with someone--or stay out of touch. We are becoming a society of introverted asswholes. Break up over answering machine or voicemail, email, texting, etc. FYI in the UAE it is law that if a man says "I divorce you, I divorce you I divorce you" courts will uphold it and divorce the couple. It needs to be said three times. Recently a court upheld a text message with the same message! Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted April 7, 2007 Share Posted April 7, 2007 That person did you a favor. Breaking up with someone over tex shows they lack the most important trait a person should have. CHARACTER! You can do better trust me. Why does it have anything to do with character? What's the difference between in person, phone or text or any other method? If someone doesn't want to talk to you anymore, you should be grateful they're even bothering to tell you, let alone disecting the method in which they do it. Link to post Share on other sites
kel30 Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Bg, I think worse than the text dumping (which happened to me before and I was feeling the exact same way as you are) is not to text or call at all. I feel absolutely devastated when you just get ignored. I'm going through this 'being ignored' right now and you took the words out of my mouth...how can someone that spent SO much time with you just forget everything in a sec? I just don't get it, at least out of respect they should say something in person. And I don't know why these things happen to nice people either! Hang in there... Link to post Share on other sites
Author bg1975 Posted April 8, 2007 Author Share Posted April 8, 2007 Thanks Kel....appreciate it. Let me get your feedback on this. After four days of NC...get an email from her....the lyrics to "I shall believe" by Sheryl Crow....not sure what it meant, although the song really does hit home for us. What you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Dubb Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Why does it have anything to do with character? What's the difference between in person, phone or text or any other method? If someone doesn't want to talk to you anymore, you should be grateful they're even bothering to tell you, let alone disecting the method in which they do it. I disagree so much with this statement. It's shows how selfish people are when it comes to other peoples feelings. Chances are the person who is about to be dumped has no idea. The least the dumper can do is sit them down and just be honest with them. Not saying anything would only torment the dumpee. They would probably spend so much time blaming themselves when it probably had nothing to do with them. It's immature and it's lacks character. There is only one way to breakup with someone and that is to their face. Just my opinion tho... Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 There is only one way to breakup with someone and that is to their face. Just my opinion tho... You have to really think about this. When someone is at the point of breaking up - meaning they no longer want to see, talk or spend any more time with the person they were before seeing, then it makes little sense to choose face to face as the method to break this horrible news to them. THey will cry, yell, get hurt and the last impression will be an ugly one. yes, breakups are sad and tragic, but face it, millions take place and to handle it in person makes little to no sense unless it's a mutual decision. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 I'm of the other school of thought. If at all possible (not an LDR), you need to break up in person because the other person deserves the opportunity to give you his/her opinion of you, even if it means you have to take a lot of emotional heat. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bg1975 Posted April 8, 2007 Author Share Posted April 8, 2007 See I agree. If you have gone out on one or two dates, that is a different story. But if you actually have a "relationship", how can you not give the other person that respect and closure on the relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Yes, stand up and take the heat. It's too easy to break up with someone when it's done so coldly via text. Very disrespectful and sorry to say but cowardly. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 I don't think someone "deserves" an explanation unless you made promises to them (e.g. "I'll always love you darling", or "I want to build a future with you"). In most cases the fact is simply that your feelings changed, or you had a specific issue with the person you are dumping. As for text versus meeting or other methods - really I don't see why you are obliged to do it face to face. If you are sick of the sight of someone, why would you want to meet them? Most times they will just start ranting at you and give you a load of crap anyway. If you are dumping them precisely because of this kind of behaviour, then it's absurd to expose yourself to more of it. A short text message is a bit cold though, I agree. I think it's just avoidance by the dumper - they don't want to deal with the unpleasant confrontation of a phonecall or personal meeting. Let's face it, there is no nice way to be dumped. Personally I think it's better to give a basic explanation, but you don't need face to face for that. I always use the phone, explain my reasons, and if they start ranting you ask them to calm down and if necessary hang up. Text or email should be reserved for people who have done something wrong like cheating on you. In that case though, the best method is to dump them BY FAX! Link to post Share on other sites
kel30 Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 BG, about the Sheryl Crow lyrics...who am I to give any advice in relationships?? But I don't see the point of the girl sending lyrics to the guy via email for nothing. It would seem to me as if she still likes you....Even sounds like she is trying to create some drama. But I don't know the whole story! I would just imagine that a girl that doesn't want to see a guy anymore would just break it up and stop contacting him.... Link to post Share on other sites
Teacher's Pet Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 Is this the new thing....break up over text after seeing each other for 8 months!!!! And how do you do it after talking about each other's day? "I don think we should talk anymore" then don't respond to another text or call?????? Argggggg! Don't get me started. -tp "umm whatever i really want to see other people right now" (text message from my ex to me, 6/19/06, ending my relationship) Link to post Share on other sites
LaughMachine Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 I love sheryl crow. Man I do! Text message breakup= youtube it lol Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted April 8, 2007 Share Posted April 8, 2007 As for text versus meeting or other methods - really I don't see why you are obliged to do it face to face. If you are sick of the sight of someone, why would you want to meet them? Most times they will just start ranting at you and give you a load of crap anyway. If you are dumping them precisely because of this kind of behaviour, then it's absurd to expose yourself to more of it. Yes exactly. Also usually there are reasons for someone wanting to break up - the other person is not giving them enough attention, they sense the other is cheating, the other said or did something to hurt them and so on. Why should the person breaking up do the other person they no longer like a favor of doing it nicely in person when the other person has hurt them and caused them to not want to be with them anymore not caring about their feeling? And if someone wants to break up for no apparent reason, then again it makes no sense for them to do it in person. I am 100% in favor of text breakups. Link to post Share on other sites
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