Motoman23 Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Long story short: My ex-gf and I have been dating for 4 years. In October of last year she broke up with me; I was shocked and devistated and still in love. Her reasoning was that I didn't appreciate her and became too comfortable and took her for granted. We parted for three months until Janurary this year. She came to my house unexpected saying "she wanted to talk." We talked for a while and decided to give it another go. Fast foward three months to one week ago. We are both graduating college, she will most likely be working in Oregon and I will be attending graduate school in California. Our second relationship was moving very slow, we weren't physical at all, she didn't hold value to my time, and often disrespected me. She obviously still held grudges toward me. Well we be both mutually decided it wasn't working and decided to end it for good. This past week has been fine. I have moved on tremendous amounts and wasn't thinking about her much at all. I guess in my gut I knew it had to come to an end because we are going our seperate ways. Well, yesterday she calls me and says she wants to talk. I arrive at her place and she hands me a letter. In the letter it says how she loves me so much and doesn't want to lose me. How she's sorry about how she treated me the past three months because she was out to prove something and she doesn't know what. She said that she wanted to be physical with me and have sex, but didn't the past three months and she doesn't know why. Basically, I am confused as hell. One week ago we both end it and agree that's it's best to move on with our lives. Then she throws this curve ball at me. I seriously don't know how to react or what I should do. I do love her, but it's more of a friendship or familly love. I'm definitly not in love with her as of now. Can things change? Will things get better? What should I do? Thanks!
CaliGuy Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Long story short: My ex-gf and I have been dating for 4 years. In October of last year she broke up with me; I was shocked and devistated and still in love. Her reasoning was that I didn't appreciate her and became too comfortable and took her for granted. We parted for three months until Janurary this year. She came to my house unexpected saying "she wanted to talk." We talked for a while and decided to give it another go. Fast foward three months to one week ago. We are both graduating college, she will most likely be working in Oregon and I will be attending graduate school in California. Our second relationship was moving very slow, we weren't physical at all, she didn't hold value to my time, and often disrespected me. She obviously still held grudges toward me. Well we be both mutually decided it wasn't working and decided to end it for good. This past week has been fine. I have moved on tremendous amounts and wasn't thinking about her much at all. I guess in my gut I knew it had to come to an end because we are going our seperate ways. Well, yesterday she calls me and says she wants to talk. I arrive at her place and she hands me a letter. In the letter it says how she loves me so much and doesn't want to lose me. How she's sorry about how she treated me the past three months because she was out to prove something and she doesn't know what. She said that she wanted to be physical with me and have sex, but didn't the past three months and she doesn't know why. Basically, I am confused as hell. One week ago we both end it and agree that's it's best to move on with our lives. Then she throws this curve ball at me. I seriously don't know how to react or what I should do. I do love her, but it's more of a friendship or familly love. I'm definitly not in love with her as of now. Can things change? Will things get better? What should I do? Thanks! She's confused. Want to make it work? Go to couples counseling together. You need to learn to communicate better with each other and get over the issues that stalled your relationship in the first place. You can't move forward until the past is buried. And that takes counseling.
bridget_jones Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 You should move to Oregon where she will be. It's way better than California. Go to grad school there.
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