cheer1689 Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He is in his first year of college, and I'm just about to graduate high school in June. In the last year, I have noticed changes in him. Where at one point, he was absolutly crazy about me, now it almost seems as if I'm a chore, just someone he has to talk to everyday. When i talk to him about this, he tells me everything i want to hear, however, sometimes his actions just dont match with his words. I have been, in my mind, what ever he could want in a girlfriend. He comes from a rather cold and distant family, and I have provided all the love in the world for him. I have never cheated on him, lied to him, or done anything so horrific to hurt him. We had a rough patch and worked through it...this rough patch entailed alot of lieing and questioning of whether he was cheating on me and a loss of trust, but that was over 7 monthes ago and I feel I have regained the trust back, i don't think he ever cheated on me, but still...he has become more selfish, spending all his money on his overly large movie collection, while making it an issue to take me to a movie, or to dinner sometimes. He gave me a promise ring that to him is also a "pre engagment ring" right before he left for college. He has also said that we're meant to be together, and that we'll be married someday. That might sound wierd about a young couple, but in the town we live in....most people, almost every older couple i know in this town, is married to their high school sweatheart. He says it to this day, and tells me that he loves me and only me, that I make things better for him, and such, but in all honesty i feel like hes taking me for granted. These random outburts of love are few and far between sometimes, and sometimes i feel like he has no one in this world that truly loves him, but if that is the case, why would he look to alienate the only person who truly cares for him? i dont think he does it knowingly, but yet, i find myself more and more frustrated, and wishing he was more like he was when we first got together. Things are better between us as of recently, and i love him. Both of us have mentioned taking breaks before, but have never followed through. And if we ever did, we would end up calling each other an hour later after things cooled down between us for apologies. Really, it has just gotten to comfortable, and I almost feel as if he doesnt see the prize he has. I dont want to sound arrogant because im not, but sometimes i dont even think he realizes what he has and wont even take the time to attempt to see it. What do I do? I want to be with him, and we love each other, or so he tells me, but his actions just dont make me believe so. Any advice is appreciated .
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