manders0724 Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 So, my guy and I have been doing pretty good. However, he doesnt like to say I love you. Whenever I bring it up, he says that yes, he does love me, its just hard to say. What the hell is so hard about it?
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Because "I love you" is a powerfully loaded phrase. Its not just the words - its all the implications and obligations that come with it as well. Perhaps he is "feeling it" so to speak, but wants to err on the side of caution when it comes to commitment.
Author manders0724 Posted April 4, 2007 Author Posted April 4, 2007 we have been together off and on for almost a year, and we live together, so i dont think its the commitment issue
Author manders0724 Posted April 4, 2007 Author Posted April 4, 2007 I would also like to point out that after we broke up for the first and only real time, he stopped saying it completely. He told me then that he wasnt sure how he felt. Since then we had still unofficially been together, and have been officially together for a while now again. Im wondering if maybe he knows he loves me, but doesnt want to say it because of our outcome last time, as we had a pretty ugly breakup. Hmmm ;X
soulseeker Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 we have been together off and on for almost a year, and we live together, so i dont think its the commitment issue I'm sorry to say that living together does not equal any kind of commitment. There are plenty of people out there willing to get free milk...I know first hand how true that can be. Honestly, why else would he have an issue saying it? If he loves you and is committed to you, then it should be no problem. Im not saying he doesnt love you, but maybe he is not committed to you yet. It has nothing to do with how long you have been together either, it would be nice if time = commitment, but it does not. It seems his lack of commitment is the issue.
fallendisguise Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 That couldn't have been said any better. That was actually my train of thought as well. I also agree with the other post. When you say "I love you," you just don't say it. There is a whole lot more that goes with it and he just may not be ready for that.
AHIWON Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I can't relate to his problem cause I've never had a problem saying it. Just thinking out loud, how is he at expressing other intimate feelings? You two talk about things like that?
Author manders0724 Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 Yes, we talk about things like that all the time. His reason for not saying it is this: "should i have to say it for you to know i mean it?" Which i understand because he does show me how much he loves me etc. it would just be nice to hear it occasionally
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