Guest Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 I have been involved with a guy for the past couple of months now. It started out as friends... and it has become 'something' more. We both agree that the time we have spent together has been amazing and at first we were happy to be together, spend time together - which is ALOT - without commitment. But over time things changed.. feelings have got stronger for both of us. I feel now that I would like to see how things go with him in a relationship - even though I am scared that even saying that would change everything. He is v unsure about commitment too - both of us are surprised to find that we like each other so much because it wasn't what or who we were originally looking for. We have made each other very happy so far... we both feel differently about our lives, ourselves, we have felt an enormous sense of well-being in the time we have been together, more motivated, positive, excited... It has been really intense and I realise I am falling in love with him. I have said to him I have to stop what is going on because my feelings are so strong and i dont want to get hurt, if he doesn't feel the same he should tell me. The fact is, is that he is not sure. This feels SO right to me. And it does to him but not all the time - we can both see ourselves together in the future but the bit in between is hard to imagine. He wishes he had someone to talk to about this... he feels like he might be making a mistake to let me go... I know there is nothing I can do... but I am wondering about other people's experience from his side, why when if something feels right - but not absolutely right, or not right all the time - should he give up? does it have to be absolutely right just to see how things go? Or am I wasting my time? Just another note, we are flat mates, have spent several nights together, although I have refused to have sex with him, not wanting to give that part of me.... we have done other things in bed - kissing, cuddling, mutual touching... maybe the other things were enough to keep him interested for now?? he wants my company all the time.... even just going to the shop... he is finding this hard to stop... so am I... we are on a cool off period to see what happens to our feelings with a bit of space... i don't want to be used... but i am falling in love with him and want to give this every chance possible... any experiences to share.. advice? comments? i would be very grateful.. thanks in advance
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