Author a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 I'm pissing and gaping sitting right here, I can only imagine being a fly on the wall. How long have you been married? None of my business, I'm just curious. It doesn't factor into my advice or opinions. I think I'm pretty good with words and verbal scolding, yet not nearly as witty as you are. Does he just sit there and take it? I ask because I found that to be so frustrating in my marriage, and at the same time recognize that no standing up for himself would have mattered because I was right and he was wrong. I really was, and ultimately I had to leave because it would have taken more years than we were married to effectively change or repair the relationship. No, not the relationship, but HIM. I know I sound pompous to the masses, but I was married to a real humdinger. Hope you have a wonderful day, a4a. married for 2 years...... together for about 4 - we were friends first. Boy he used to be a go getter, or presented himself as such. All those big plans! Short of a brain transplant (which he is good looking and very smart when he chooses to be) I don't see any changes ever coming. Thing is he changed into this.... as soon as we were M'ed he went to crap. Got her now attitude I guess...... no wonder he wanted to get married. I had cold feet, should have listened to my feet! :lmao: But no worries..... prenupped him...... I don't want anything, and I keep my assets apart from our mutual money. I just need to crush out that last little flicker of hope....... which is like almost non existant..... amoeba sized if that.
JackJack Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 hide it in some tater tots. Oh, that sounds good! I haven't had tater tots in ages. Yum! Off to get some frozen tater tots.
Author a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 hide it in some tater tots. Oh, that sounds good! I haven't had tater tots in ages. Yum! Off to get some frozen tater tots. What ya need is some of that TATER TOT TRAILER Casserole!!! ummm doggy, now that is some down right good home cookin'! :lmao: I think I am going out for crab cakes tonight........ nice ceasar salad....... perhaps some bread pudding...........
hotgurl Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I think I am going out for crab cakes tonight........ nice ceasar salad....... perhaps some bread pudding........... I love crab cakes. Haven't had any in a while.
Author a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 I love crab cakes. Haven't had any in a while. well get some....... you only live once. I am making the H take me out :lmao: Yeppers...... calling him in a moment and he better wear his loafers and make his hair pretty.
JackJack Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I googled, "tater tot trailer cassarole".....all it said was, freshly made tater tot cassarole, baked right out of the oven of a trailer. I'm so naive, someone please show me the ways.
Trialbyfire Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I'm also sorry to hear about this. The boy wants a mama, not a partner. The more you communicate the things that you want, the less reactive he gets. Just like the relationship between an angsty teenage boy and his parents. Talk about being on either ends of the pole. You're AAA-type, he's ZZZ-type. He remains in full control, if he doesn't listen.
Author a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 I'm also sorry to hear about this. The boy wants a mama, not a partner. The more you communicate the things that you want, the less reactive he gets. Just like the relationship between an angsty teenage boy and his parents. Talk about being on either ends of the pole. You're AAA-type, he's ZZZ-type. He remains in full control, if he doesn't listen. Yep brought that point to his attention on several occassions. I am so onto his games. He loves me.......... he loves me....... :lmao: no need to be sorry...... very interesting things I have learned. Not just about him but myself. It seems I am worth more than what I gave myself credit for. kinda neat.
Trialbyfire Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 no need to be sorry...... very interesting things I have learned. Not just about him but myself. It seems I am worth more than what I gave myself credit for. kinda neat. A go-getter like you? Are you kidding? There are a ton of men out there that want a woman that can meet them halfway, someone who they don't have to continuously feed and diaper.
Author a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 A go-getter like you? Are you kidding? There are a ton of men out there that want a woman that can meet them halfway, someone who they don't have to continuously feed and diaper. yep and I can suck a ping pong ball through a 30 foot hose. :lmao: dumbass blew it..... no pun intended.
Trialbyfire Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 yep and I can suck a ping pong ball through a 30 foot hose. :lmao: dumbass blew it..... no pun intended. Holy crap, you can make any man upstanding...ummm...outstanding.
Author a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 You know this PA crap is to me like some weird form of abuse. Cannot put my finger on it..... but it feels like abuse. hummmmm.
JackJack Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 yep and I can suck a ping pong ball through a 30 foot hose. TMI! :lmao:
JackJack Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 You know this PA crap is to me like some weird form of abuse. Cannot put my finger on it..... but it feels like abuse. hummmmm. I think it kind is like that. My uncle is a PA person, and has been married to my aunt now for almost 40 years. Its sad, it really is. Over the years I have heard my aunt complain about how PA he is, and how she can't take the BS games anymore blah blah blah, only for her to still be there. I really do think, sometimes people can have alot of power over another, so much so that they just feel they can not leave even though they are sick and tired of it. I think she wanted out but just never took the initative. maybe she felt it was easier, or took less effort to stay in a bunch of crap than to get out. Hell, she might have been PA somewhat herself.
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 yep and I can suck a ping pong ball through a 30 foot hose. What size of hose ? it might not be a huge feat if the hose was 1"1/4 ID. Now if it was a 5/8 garden hose.. then I'm impressed..
Author a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 What size of hose ? it might not be a huge feat if the hose was 1"1/4 ID. Now if it was a 5/8 garden hose.. then I'm impressed.. 5/8 with the spray head still attached............ :lmao: I won a contest ...... got a trophy and a case of chapstick.
Art_Critic Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 got a trophy and a case of chapstick. and how many numbers ?
Author a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 I think it kind is like that. My uncle is a PA person, and has been married to my aunt now for almost 40 years. Its sad, it really is. Over the years I have heard my aunt complain about how PA he is, and how she can't take the BS games anymore blah blah blah, only for her to still be there. I really do think, sometimes people can have alot of power over another, so much so that they just feel they can not leave even though they are sick and tired of it. I think she wanted out but just never took the initative. maybe she felt it was easier, or took less effort to stay in a bunch of crap than to get out. Hell, she might have been PA somewhat herself. well I am looking around thinking....... oh man I don't want to pack and I am really not interested in dating... he is good at fixing broken things (not the M tho) Then I read posts here about other people and think .... he is not that bad :lmao: Really the easiest thing would be to have a thing with the pool boy or some other flingy dingy on the side and just not move....... not interested at the moment.... nor would I, but I can see why people don't bother to leave. No worries though I think my current outlook is elevating to the next level. :eek: :eek: I know I am not PA I am OA ........ blunt and to the point. Anything I have posted here H has been told and is well aware of. all done wondering if it is all my fault.... my fault is my final loss of temper, I am vicious..... told H I am being so damn mean because that is how much I am hurting.....or was hurting. Now just pissed.
Author a4a Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 and how many numbers ? oh no numbers...... I mean it scared the hell out of most of the guys. I could turn them inside out if I wasn't paying attention. :lmao:
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