john 07 Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 GF and i been togather for 6 years and 5 months and she broke up w/ me b/c I guess i didnt change for her. Shes been trying to break up with me for the past year but lasted a little extra for some reason. Tried to get back but didnt work. 7 days later she with another guy and find out hes my study buddy. So pissed! They have been talking/texting for a few months b4 we broke up. I let her do the calling/texting with him b/c they were good friends and had lot in common. Didnt think much of it b/c I trusted her so much. She constatnly enphsized he was just a friend. After our break up shes with that same guy now. WTF?? Her room mate caught her comming out of his apartment early in the morning and spread a rumor that shes sleeping with him and now shes devastated. Her room mate was with this same guy a couple months ago and now her room mate is pissed at her b/c shes with him. Shes still with that guy now. She broke up with me b/c I lacked some qualities she has been looking for. This new guy for her honestly does not have the qualities either but she says hes treating her well and makes her happy. She says she still loves me and always will but the feeling for me is slowly fading. I cant beleive shes doing this after more than 6 years with me. Is she on temporary rebound or no??
mistizzle21 Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 It sounds to me like she's had an emotional bond brewing with this guy for awhile. I don't think it was just rebound so much, I think another guy woo'd her and that's that.Sorry
Author john 07 Posted April 4, 2007 Author Posted April 4, 2007 It sounds to me like she's had an emotional bond brewing with this guy for awhile. I don't think it was just rebound so much, I think another guy woo'd her and that's that.Sorry Dude im so sad!!!
wlminfla Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Dude I completely understand where you're coming from. Check this out.. My ex-gal and I were together for six years. For the last two, all she could talk about (and I do mean ALL she could talk about) was getting married. I was not ready because I was finishing up my masters and wans't working full time yet. Then, I go buy the ring and what does she do...yep, that's right. Big ugly axe. Now...she's dating my former roommate. Yeah...I'm there with ya buddy.
Author john 07 Posted April 5, 2007 Author Posted April 5, 2007 I saw her beautiful face at school today and it hurst so much to know shes with another person. im still so confused if this will be temorary for her or if this is permantent. Shes 20 by the way.
Mary3 Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 Um...* she * is not on a temporary rebound . YOU are ! You are the ball. She will play you as long as you let her. This crap about " he is just my friend " gave her plenty of elbow room to screw around with him and THEN she dumped you. NC immediately. Do NOT take her back !
BeachBlonde Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 I hate to break it to you, but I don't think this is a rebound for her...sounds to me like she just likes this guy and started to have feelings for him while she was still in the relationship with you. I'm assuming this is your first love, and it's going to hurt for awhile, but don't contact her and don't let her contact you. Move on, and eventually you'll find someone worth your while.
Guest Posted April 5, 2007 Posted April 5, 2007 John, The worst thing you can do is try to change who you are for someone else. If you think you need improvement then do it for you, not her. If you do it for the wrong reason then it won't last and then the resentment builds. You have got to stop talking to her. I know how hard it is, we all do. If she wants this other guy then he needs to be her emotional support system, not you. She forfits that right when she left. Its too early to establish if its a rebound or not. You have got to disappear from her life. Let her see what its like without you in it. She doesn't miss you because she knows she can still depend on you. In the meantime stay as busy as you can. Grieve. Cry. Whatever it takes.
Guest Y Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 John, Its not a rebound. Let me explain why. Rebounds are going into a relationship within a few months time with a break in between, not going from one to the other, expecially before the 1st one is over with. That's an affair. So the chances of it working out are even less. If you want any chance at all of getting back with her you have got to cut her out off your life completely. If she contacts you at all you ask one question only: are you with him? If she says yes say then ask your b/f and hang up. Period. No emails, text messages, saying hi in the hallway...nothing. You are not want she wants, so she gets none of you. That means the good stuff too. She'll play that I thought you were my friend crap. NO! You ain't her friend. She might whine or disappear for awhile thinking you will give in first. Let her. She might even pull the "you never loved me" **** because she's not getting her way. Do NOT engage in any relationship talk. Just say something like "you have a b/f now go to him". Live your life. You had one before her and you will have one after her. Even if its miserable right now. LIVE IT. One last thing: any changes you think need to be made do it for you, not to get her back. Get pissed John. Y
Author john 07 Posted April 6, 2007 Author Posted April 6, 2007 yup it sucks saw them togather today!!
Dubb Posted April 6, 2007 Posted April 6, 2007 Your only hope is to go NC. Ignore her when she tries to get in touch with you. Chances are she probably will. The grass is never greener. Tell yourself if she don't want you she can't have you. Let her fall on her face. She might be with this guy for a while but the odds of them being together forever are slim. That does not mean she will ever come back to you. Move on with your life as hard as it. Spend time working on you. What did you not like about yourself in the relationship? What do you want with your life? Be selfish right now. Get to the gym. I have hurt like you. The constant pain in your gut, the non stop thinking of her. We all know what it is like. Good news is it will lessen. Time will heal you. You will love again. Your story is not over it has just began. Do your best to just FOCUS on you. It will be hard at first but you are responsible for how you feel. Don't just get over it go through it.
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