crazee4life Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 There's this guy who used to always like my best friend. Finally after 2 years of waiting for him to notice me we start going out. We went out for six months and then I told my friend I wasn't sure how much longer I wanted to be with him, and she took it the wrong way and told him I wanted to break up. I thought I was over him and now he has a new girlfriend and I fell back in love with him again. I thought I was over him and it was just a phase. Apparently not. Help me get over him!!!!
longlegzs80 Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Make sure you talk to him instead of your friend letting him know about the supposed breakup. He's probubly crushed and its obvious you are too, so make it a point to talk to him, and explain things. When other people re-word what someone else said, it is usually taken the wrong way and that is why you need to talk to him to clear things up. Hope this helps.
Author crazee4life Posted April 4, 2007 Author Posted April 4, 2007 But, the thing is, he wants to be friends and really likes his girlfriend now. I know he still has some feeling for me because I catch him staring at me all the time, but I'm not sure if it will even work out again. It's tearing me apart to see him kiss her. I'll try your suggestion and see if it works any good.
longlegzs80 Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Another suggestion you can try. Since he is now in a relationship, you can either accept his friendship and be supportive or not bother with him altogether. Personally I would continue being his friend, appoligize for the fact that your friend got the message mixed up and you still have feelings for him. BUT, that you understand that he is in a relationship and would like to still be his friend. In the end, you could come out on top again. Just make sure you don't say nothing about your dates to your friends so they don't tell the person one thing when really you ment another. Accept his friendship. Best friends become really kick ass lovers.
Starry-eyed Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Well, crazee, turning off the lust for someone is hard. I don't know if I've successfully done it, although many times have I tried. Maybe you can start thinking about all his flaws and that will diminish your attraction for him. Try to imagine him with bad breath or b.o. Otherwise, longlegz has a good suggestion, if you can just be his friend (which you may not be able to be). Maybe, if he does still have feelings for you, things will work out. But if he's really into his new girlfriend, you just have to accept it. Although, if he so quickly got another girlfriend after your "friend" said you wanted to break up with him, maybe he doesn't have feelings for you anymore. Not trying to be mean, just observing, it seems like he moved on pretty quickly.
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