SummerRae Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Hello all, So here's the deal. Sunday night the guy I've started dating here and there calls and invites me to do something with him this week. I say, sure. He says, when? I say, Monday or Tuesday. He elects Monday... says he's looking forward to seeing me, blah, blah, blah. Fast forward to Monday and he calls and cancells because his ex-wife is really stuck for a babysitter for the kids. I say, no problem - would you like to reschedule or play it by ear. He says, "how about Tuesday?" So we reschedule. Then today he calls and appologizes but his dad won a small lottery and would really like to take him for dinner. So he cancels our plans today. First of all, it kind of irritated me because he is the one who wanted to reschedule... What I want to know is: what is acceptable cancellation? Do I have a right to be irritated about this? Twice in a row just seems a little inconsiderate. The first time, I totally understand, the second, not so much. I've decided I'm not going to innitiate the next date. The ball is in his court. It just kinda bothers me that he would do this. I just wanted your thoughts/opinions. Thanks!!
tanbark813 Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Twice in a row just seems a little inconsiderate. The first time, I totally understand, the second, not so much. Yep, I agree. His dad couldn't take him out any other night? Cancelling plans at the last minute is not only rude but when it happens more than once it's basically showing where you rank on that person's list of priorities. That's not to say you should be a higher priority than his dad in general, of course, but in terms of scheduling he could have kept his plans with you and gone out with his dad another night which also makes me think that that's a bulls**t excuse.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 If he asked me out again, I would laugh hysterically and tell him thatwith histrack record that you would pretty stupid to hold a date open for him then change the subject quick.
Lauriebell82 Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 i totally agree with tanbark..this guy doesn't seem reliable. i had an ex bf who kept cancelling and rearranging plans and we ended up fighting constantly. he could have def. told his dad he had plans and went out another night, makes me think maybe he was doing something else... my point: lose this guy, he sounds very unreliable. ur always gonna wonder if he is going to cancel or rearrange plans with u whenever u decide u two are giong to do something. speaking from experience, it makes u crazy!
bridget_jones Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Yeah, I don't understand why he couldn't tell his dad he had a date. You would think he would understand that. I'm with you, definitely don't call him and he should call you if he wants another date with you. When it comes down to it, also, he could have told his ex-wife "Sorry, I have plans." Because why should her plans take precedence over his plans with you? She has the kids, she has to deal. I wouldn't pin any hopes on this guy, you say it's been dating here and there,he doesn't sound like he's really going for it too much.
Aloros Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 One of the things that really attracted me to my current bf is that he keeps his plans with me, even if other things come up! I think it shows that a person can keep their word. I agree with everyone else. Don't bother with him. I dated my ex for 5.5 years, and he was NOT good about keeping plans with me. If someone from work called and wanted him to take their shift, if he accidentally double-planned something, if he left some homework to the last minute, you could guarantee he'd break plans with me. It is just too much irritation and disappointment to deal with, especially when you don't HAVE to deal with it. Surprise, surprise, my ex had problems keeping his word to me. 1
Author SummerRae Posted April 3, 2007 Author Posted April 3, 2007 You are ALL Right. I knew this in my gut, it's just we had this amazing emotional and physical connection that I thought meant something on both ends. I will learn from this, that is FOR SURE. Connection or no connection, how one acts says it ALL. :-) Thanks for all your words! 1
Guest Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 I agree with the rest. Maybe global warning will be his next excuse. You deserve better than this.
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