shelliezdesign Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Here's a scenario....I want to see how men feel about it. Your girlfriend knows a guy who has asked her for a platonic dinner, maybe a co worker. She wishes to go to dinner with him. She enjoys the entertainment he gives her - he's funny. He is extremely hot and attractive - she loves to look at him. In fact, hotter than you. He knows he has her attention so he plays it up to get even more attention from her. BUT...she seriously wants no contact with him physically. Sure, she dreams of it. He is different than you - hotter than you. She won't touch him though because she has you...her boyfriend. And it is strictly off limits. Though she thinks about it, fantasizes about it...lusts for it. And she keeps a good distance from him....though he might rub up against her some time for the fun and flirtatiousness of it. AGAIN..... it is only for HER entertainment and to make HER feel special. She then ends the dinner and goes home to see you...possibly all hot and bothered. She might just have to visit with him again. For the same reasons. Would you have an issue with that? Would it hurt your feelings? Would it be a cause for breakup? Would you feel insecure because you know he's much better looking and she is attracted to him? Just curious...... because that ugly feeling you feel, the hurt feelings you have....is how most of us women feel when you "frequent" strip clubs. There is no touching honey it is not allowed. Get over it honey it's for men's entertainment. I only go once in a while. It's harmless. I don't compare you or dream about them. They don't turn me on like that. All I'm saying is..... I am with a man who now frequents strip clubs and bars - getting drunk most of the time. I'm done feeling this way. I know there are people who respect relationship boundaries out there. In the scenario...I wouldn't even dare do that to him. But he will not stop going to strip clubs.
loveratud Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 I'm a 22 year old guy. I've never been to a strip club, and I never will go to one. The idea is base and repulsive to me. I'm a fairly liberal guy in a social sense (marry the gays, worship Allah, whatever) and I can't say that I think strip clubs should be shut down. But I can say that there's the kind of people who would go them (or work at them) and the kind of people who won't. I think someone in a committed relationship going to strip clubs needs to reevaluate what's really important to them. I'd definitely say it's grounds for a breakup.
Author shelliezdesign Posted April 4, 2007 Author Posted April 4, 2007 I appreciate knowing there are men out there like you. I am in "re-evaluation mode" and it's tough. Some women are comfortable about this. I am not, never have been.... I feel that I need to find someone out there that appreciates mutual respect in a relationship. Honestly, if my boyfriend goes to a strip club once in a blue moon..for a special occasion with the boys..no problem. Frequently...major issues.
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