Myz_Heavenly Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 I wasn't going to post, but after browsing and not quickly finding something similar, I need you guys' opinions. Does anyone have any advice w/how to cope when you have no closure? A guy friend of mine is in the Navy in another state from where I live and he called me on Valentine's Day and after that, I received no phone calls from him. He wouldn't answer when I called him, neither would he text me back. We used to talk numerous times a day, even flying to see each other every few months, and everything seemed fine. I'm thinking it just wasn't meant to be...we reconnected for the first time in 2 years after I divorced my H...but I developed feelings for him over 5 months and it's hard for me to move on w/out an explanation for why he stopped calling...HELP!!
Ssheena Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Could he be involved in or somewhere he can't contact you? That's got to be tough. Have you written him? Asked him what is up? If he has changed his mind or feelings it sure would be nice if he had the cojones to tell you.
Faith2 Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 How did your conversation go on Valentine's Day? Were there any negative words or undertone? Could you send him an email with a "Read Receipt Request" so at least you'd know if he received it?
polywog Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Ssheena might have hit on it, possibly he's serving someplace where he isn't able to contact anyone. Before I would jump to conclusions I'd try to investigate this. Does he have family that you can contact that might know if this is the case?
Author Myz_Heavenly Posted April 3, 2007 Author Posted April 3, 2007 I know his family pretty well...his sister married my brother and she said that he texted her back saying he was stressed w/school, but he could still respond to my text to say as much, don't ya think? As for V-day, everything was good, he sounded happy, I was happy he called and he told me he would talk to me later on, which usually means he calls me the next day. Usually when he's on duty on the ship, and I call his phone, it goes str8 to voicemail, but it rings, rings and then goes to VM. I left him a msg asking him to at least be man enough to call me back and just tell me he doesn't want to talk, but no such luck. And I also know that he logs into MySpace at least once a week. I don't have an account, but on a hunch I looked up his name and it showed the last time he logged in, so he can't be that busy.
Author Myz_Heavenly Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 Just to let you guys know, it has been over three months now, and I still haven't heard from the guy who called me on Valentine's Day with a great attitude and then discontinued calling from that day forth. Still doesn't answer my calls/texts as of a month ago. Still no explanation or closure, but I do know he is not involved in military business that prevents him from calling b/c he has a brother that is in prison who calls him from a restricted #, so I called him and blocked my # a few weeks ago b/c I knew he would think it was his brother. And guess what? He answered. I just disconnected b/c I didn't want him to think I wanted to talk to him so bad, that I had to block my # just to get him to pick up. It's a pride thing I guess. It is still very hard for me b/c I find it hard to deal w/most situations w/out closure, but at least I am keeping myself occupied enough so that I don't get weak and call him from my phone anymore. I still would like any advice though. Something to help toughen me up, maybe?
Jinxx Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Yes closure would be nice but you need to let this go. With time it will get easier. Don't hang onto it any longer. Focus your energy elsewhere.
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