xXleeXx Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Well ill try and cut the whole thing down Basically I have been with this girl for 6 months now I am 17 she’s 15 Me and gf where going thrugh a bit of a ruff patch because I felt I couldn’t trust her after I found out she has had 9 sexual relationships in the past 3 years, it sort of hurt me to find this out, so anyway a few weeks ago I was at work and she was talking to her ex bf (she was with him 7 months ago) apparently they were just m8’s, he told her that she still had feelings for her and wanted to get back with her, my gf told him that she’s not sure. Because we were going through a sort of ruff patch she didn’t feel to close to me I guess, she told me the reason she told her ex this is because she doesn’t like letting people down or hurting them. Now the only reason I found out is because her best m8 which wants us to split up( another long story) found out about it all and told her to tell me straight away, or else she is telling me, so obviously my gf told me Then she said to me at least I told you that I done it, but if it wasn’t for her best m8 I would of never knew, I wouldn’t of ever found out basically it would of just been brushed under the rug and forgotten about, this made me think well how many more situations were there like this, she was so sorry I could see it in her and I forgave her because I truly love this girl and thought she deserves a second chance but the thing is I really cant trust her now I find it hard sometimes because she keeps getting phone calls from guys, just saying that they are mates, and what is she up to and stuff? I no it sounds pathetic on my half that I don’t like her having mates but I don’t know if I can trust her I am so confused I cant get my head straight I need some major help please, I doubt this even makes sense to anyone its so confusing and complicated please help thank you very much
oppath Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Well, first off, her 9 experiences...if they happened before you, and she wasn't cheating on any of her bf's, then yes, you "should" trust her. However, 9 sexual partners before the age of 15 is a lot by anyone's standards. You will be hard pressed to find anyone who would disagree. Your gf sounds immature, which at 15, she is. As are you (not to be harsh, you are much more mature than her). To answer your question, no, you can't trust her. Part of being in a relationship is telling your current partner the big events in your life. An ex asking for you back...even hanging out with an ex as mates...should be shared straightaways with the current SO. Yes, at least she did tell you, and she was likely trying to spare your feelings by not wanting to tell you or she was trying to keep you on a back burner as she figured things out. You don't want someone like that. You are young, this relationship has a 0.00000001% chance of working out long term. I don't feel you can truly trust her and I feel you need more experiences; I see this relationship heading for drama down the road.
lorr Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 First of all you have no business dealing with a 15 yr old minor. Why don't you date a girl your own age? For goodness sakes this girl has been sexually active since the age of 12, and your more concerned about childish going on's concerning her ex. This girl should be focusing on her school work, and not flitting from guy to guy. If your still interested in her, then I'm sure you can wait until she's a bit older.
Dadaal Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 I agree with the rest of the crew - you need to look for a girl of your age.
Author xXleeXx Posted April 3, 2007 Author Posted April 3, 2007 im only just 17 and shes nerally 16, so its not like there is much of an age gap to be honest, i think i should just try and trust her and speak to her about the whole situation, and see how it works out.
lorr Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 im only just 17 and shes nerally 16, so its not like there is much of an age gap to be honest, i think i should just try and trust her and speak to her about the whole situation, and see how it works out. The fact remains that she's still 15. At that age she is not even mature enough to handle a relationship whether it be sexual/emotional.
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