It's the worst of times

[Unclescam777]

It may be long, but please i beg you to read it in its entirety and respond....and i put this in this section because it has to do with my girlfriend, which means dating.

 

 

My life is just falling apart right now and i really need a shoulder to cry on, but since thats not possible I'll have to rely on this BBS to help me through it. For the past few months i've been getting really sick(puking and peeing blood, etc) and have gone to many doctors to find out what was wrong, only nobody could figure anything out. So one day I drove to a different hospital, one that was out of town. There i saw a doctor who checked me out and told me that he believed I had stomach cancer....and thats where all the problems started.

 

You know, when a doctor tells you that you probably have cancer its such a god awful feeling. I broke into tears right there, after all im only 18 and still have a life to live. He showed me a brosure of a center in upstate NY and suggested i go to it. With all this said I truely believed I had cancer. So i eventually worked up the guts to tell my girlfriend that i had cancer. We both cried, yada yada, and days went by. I began researching stomach cancer and discovered that many people only live about 30 days if it goes untreated, though if its treated it can be one of the least harmful forms of cancer(usually cureable without chemotheropy).

 

So as you can imagine i am so terrified of what may happen, as is my girlfriend. Everyday she bugged me to tell my parents but i was so scared i never did. I guess she needed someone to talk to about this whole situation(im sure it was hard for her to deal with her boyfriend supposedly having cancer) so she told her mom....and that bitch had the nerve to say i was making the whole thing up. So i get a call from my girlfriend around midnight with her pissed off telling me that i was lying to her this whole time.

 

After crying to her that i wasnt making anything up my stomach began to hurt really bad just like it always did, so i went to the hospital right next to my house. Naturally they told me that the previous doctor was full of **** and that he should have never told me i had or may have cancer without doing any tests. So now the hospital is sending me to a stomach specialist(gastrologist?) to find out what is really wrong with me...but none of this is what upsets me.

 

When i get home from the hospital its 2AM and i call my girlfriend because i needed to tell her what just happened, and so i did(and i also told my parents the whole story) and when i told her all of this she broke up with me and said she would never take me back because i lied to her. I am so hurt by this...i'm sitting here in tears because i lost her all because of some ****ing doctor who had no place telling me what he did. I've tried to reason with her but she keeps hanging up on me and I'm so hurt by all of this.

 

Now i know some people may say i should just say "**** it, if she cant be here for me when i need her most then she isnt worth my time" but i really love her and i do understand what it must be like to be on her side. I know that if she were to tell me she had cancer and then for her to take it back, i'd be wondering what was going on too. But i really want her to understand i was just going by what i was told and i wasnt making any of this up...how can i get her to be reasonable and understand that i am not the bad guy and that i am going through a tough time right now?

 

To make matters worse the hospital wont give me any papers explaining the situation due to liability reasons so i cant even show proof that im not making this whole thing up....and whats even worse is i dont know the doctors name who told me about the cancer, so theres no chance of getting him in trouble. I'm just so hurt by all of this, i feel like a puppet. One second i think i have cancer, the next second i dont, and by the end of all of this i lose the woman i love because she thinks i was just trying to get attention, which isnt the truth. Please someone be my voice of reason, what should i do? I'm shaking violently im so upset, i dont want to lose her because of some ****ing doctor...but maybe it was my fault for believing him even though he didnt do any tests. But its easy to say that now, and much harder to say that when i was originally "diagnosed" since i was too busy crying to think logically.

[Tony T]

She did not break up with you because she didn't believe you. She broke up with you because she's a cold-hearted, worthless piece of crap who doesn't want to deal with a boyfriend who may have cancer or some other disease.

 

Trust me on this one, you don't need a lady who is so totally cold and so incredibly ignorant that she would break up with you on the phone before she met with you, talked to you and investigated this situation for herself.

 

The bottom line is she is not very fond of you. Get her out of your system. She is the worst of the worst and you must face it. Anybody who would abandon you in this situation is a candidate for devilhood. (She is probably the reason you are so sick.)

 

I can't believe you would listen to a doctor tell you he "believed" you had cancer of the stomach and then go repeat this without all the proper tests. A doctor may suspect something but until tests are completed there is no way he can make a definitive diagnoses.

 

You symptoms can indicate all sorts of things. If they find nothing wrong with your stomach, have them do an IVP to determine if you have a kidneystone. That would be my uneducated, un-trained medical opinion based on the description of your symptoms. If you exercise strenuously, I would think maybe it was exercise-induced hematuria.

 

In my wildest imagination, I cannot believe that for even a split second you would want a lady like this back in your life. And not for a second does it matter what she thinks at this point.

[HokeyReligions]

Originally posted by Unclescam777

To make matters worse the hospital wont give me any papers explaining the situation due to liability reasons so i cant even show proof that im not making this whole thing up....and whats even worse is i dont know the doctors name who told me about the cancer, so theres no chance of getting him in trouble. I'm just so hurt by all of this, i feel like a puppet. One second i think i have cancer, the next second i dont, and by the end of all of this i lose the woman i love because she thinks i was just trying to get attention, which isnt the truth. Please someone be my voice of reason, what should i do? I'm shaking violently im so upset, i dont want to lose her because of some ****ing doctor...but maybe it was my fault for believing him even though he didnt do any tests. But its easy to say that now, and much harder to say that when i was originally "diagnosed" since i was too busy crying to think logically.

I agree w/ what Tony said. But this part doesn't make sense. You are 18 and are entitled to your medical records. Whatever "liability" reasons they are giving you should not prevent you from getting the information. Also, any doctor you see is going to get paid for seeing you. Whether it's from your insurance company or you, you can trace the doctor thru medical bills, or just call the hospital with the date you saw the doctor and get his name. If he didn't put in writing "this guy has cancer" there is very little chance of him getting into trouble anyway--his a$$ is covered if it's not in writing (I know about this stuff first hand)

 

You must have filled out some paperwork with every doctor you have seen and they would give you copies or receipts. There is always a paper trail. You need to take control of your own health issues and keep track of what doctors you see and why.

 

As for your gf - she's obviously not mature enough to be in a committed relationship. Move on.

[Tony T]

You did not lose this girl because of what the doctor said. What if he had been right...or what is he IS right? I take it you haven't received the full compliment of tests and results yet.

 

This girl broke up with you because she's a piece of crap...she doesn't trust you...she didn't believe in you...and, most likely, if you had terminal cancer she didn't want to deal with it.

 

You should find that doctor and send him a nice gift for showing you what a low class, inconsiderate bxtch you had for a girlfriend.

[Debster]

You saw her for the true person that she is.

I hope the tests results bring good news.