Cardinal64 Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 Hi again. Separated from my wife for 3 months . We had been married for about 7 years - we have a 6 year old son. Just couldn't deal with her lies, deceit and cheating. Enough was enough. The thought of her with another man is eating away at me.. I realize I have to get pass this but it's not easy. Anybody else feel the same way?[sIZE=4][COLOR=#0000ff] [/COLOR][/sIZE]
Trialbyfire Posted April 3, 2007 Posted April 3, 2007 I used to but out of the blue one day, completely gave up on him. After that, it was a matter of letting go, then I forgave both him but more importantly, forgave myself for making such a bad error in judgement. It doesn't mean I don't wish for what was or what might have been. It just means that he's no longer a factor or consideration in my life. It's like as if a thousand pound weight was lifted from my shoulders. We all go through the anger cycle. If you need to vent at someone, do it at her. Just make sure the children aren't around.
Batman7 Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 I can tell you from experience that over time you will think about it less often, a real long time. The thing is, it will pop into your head and you will be as angry and hurt as ever. The lies are the worst part, if she would tell the truth, you could probably find some peace. I'm in the same boat my firend, it hurts. We can't let what someone else did ruin our lives, it's not fair, that's not how it is suppose to be.
Jinxx Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Three months isn't long enough. Been there. It took me a good two years to get over my ex-husband. A good therapist got me through it.
aaaaaiiiiieeeee Posted April 4, 2007 Posted April 4, 2007 Three months!? Give it at least another 3 months. It's only been 4 for me, but the thought of my wife with someone else doesn't bother me as much as it used to, probably b/c I don't think about it as much. At abou the 3 month mark I started getting this sense of relief that would hit me in waves. I start feeling good about getting away from her lies and her abusive treatment. I remember feeling like sh*t when I filed for divorce, but now kind of feel like hey she did me a favor and I can go find someone that will truly appreciate me.
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